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Your child because the executive defcit
is going to need to be made more accountable to others we've already
talked about a lot of this but let's just go back over in more specifics
first you need to be much more consistent with the rules and
consequences and raising this child than normal parents need to be
and that's not because you're going to engineer the ADHD
out of the child it's because you're going to make this child less disabled
from there ADHD by doing that ADHD is not information deficit disorder so
kindly shut up
Act Don't Yak the more you blather
the more you natter the more you nag the less influence you have
so stop thinking that one more sentence will be enough to tip the scales in
favor of obedience
it isn't if I can just say it one more time I know he'll listen
so on the 20th time they re our fingers crossed behind your back
K some say it once then back it up
what these kids listen to more than anything or the immediate consequences
not the nattering not a nagging not the moral essays on why you should clean up
your room to avoid meningitis
now with ADHD children you've got to get their attention one of the easiest ways
to do it
and also an affectionate way is to touch them so I want you to put your hand on
their arm on their hand or around their shoulder
when you talk to them I want you to look in their eye
in with that Clint eastwood look I want you to keep it short
and sweet what do you want done what are you trying to say
or is this positive feedback is disapproval
is this recognition is the sprays but touch
then talk keep it short keep it sweet
get to the point and then back it up all right if you're a pair with an ADHD
child you better be setting a timer to go off every few minutes
checked on where that child is this is to avoid accidental injury
it is also to catch problems before they occur
in order to be a proactive parent and I'll show you what we call the
transition plan in a moment I want you to increase the frequency of
consequences for this trial
your child needs much more external consequences and other people
so there's no need to apologize for you not gonna turn them into some little
materialistic it because he already is anyway
okay okay here's one he's got a short attention span
done break the work in too small
pieces stop trying to torture his attention span
to become longer than it possibly could ever be to remember the thirty percent
rule
reduce the age by 30 percent that attention span I have to cut the work
into that short appearing so instead of 30 problems all at once
you get five then you do them bring them up to me I will take up your citizenship
of the next five math problems and give them back to you
this is how you going to take exams this is how you going to do you work
small chunks frequent breaks not
one chunk all at once by the way that is better than giving extra time on an exam
even to a college student
extra time on an exam to someone but no sense of time
is a dumb idea you stole that from the learning disabilities to get you to know
what the heck I'll to ask for so I guess we'll just at a rest but I'm
but extra time to somebody with this disorder is the definition of hell
you wanna know why because if you have no sense of time
I want you to remember back to when you were five it was the week before
christmas what I don't feel like I'm
like molasses just loled moving well that's what it feels like to somebody
with ADHD
and you just gave him an extra our lower-grade each
they're up there out there out the door before you even know what I love this
extra time recommendation at its so stupid
right what you should be doing is called time
of the clock you get a stopwatch I'm not stop part is going to be the length of
time
everybody else gets start to watch anytime you like
you can stop it stand-up stretch take a break
ask me a question come back start to watch you only get the same hour as
everybody else
but you could to break it up as often as you like will this take
extra time of course but that is merely a byproduct of the strategy
whereas telling somebody they have extra time is not a strategy
this is being done throughout the entire state Indiana by the Educational Testing
Service to prove that it has a more compelling accommodation
for taking multiple choice time to us thing is the old
extra time which we already know was going to fail anyway
break the work into pieces more frequent breaks
the work will get done you are going to have to use external timers
we've already talked about that