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Q: How do we build the consideration of social return into every conversation and every decision
at every level in the organization? - Judie Smith, Paris
Swamiji: Judie Smith – look inside. What is social return?
It is nothing but looking at the life with a larger picture. Understand, see if you build
your house,you call it as selfishness. If you build the road, you call it as social
return. But you don’t understand without the road, house is useless. So what is social
return? Nothing but looking at life beyond 120 degrees. See 120 degree is the normal
vision. If you look at the life 240 degree or 360 degree, that is social return. Nothing
else. So don’t think social return is some great compassionate, sacrificing, serving,
great selfless attitude. No. Relax. First thing, understand, thinking with the consideration
of social return is intelligent way of thinking. It is intelligence - which makes you consider
social return. It is not morality. It is not religious quality. It is not ethics. Nothing.
It is just intelligence. Learn to look at every contribution of your life with the whole
picture. For example, if you are a manager in a company, try to understand the whole
responsibility of the company towards humanity. What this company is supposed to contribute
to the humanity. Have the whole picture and fit yourself with it comfortably. Have this
same attitude in every decision. Then, naturally whole company will have this same attitude
towards the society, that’s it. Understand, consideration of social return is not some
sacrifice, service or ethics. Why don’t you understand? It is just intelligence. Many
times, you think consideration of social return is something like you do a big service, favour.
No. Maybe you can use that word to market yourself. I call it corporate compassion.
New word I am creating. What is the corporate compassion, you know? You shave his head,
take his hair, sell that and don’t even give him little oil for the head and you say
'I shaved you, because only then dandruff will go from you! It's a treatment for dandruff.'
And that poor fellow believes it. That is what I call corporate compassion. Please understand,
consideration of social return – the very word shows you are also from the pattern of
corporate compassion. No. Compassion should be very raw, pure, innocent. I tell you - raw,
pure, innocent compassion is intelligence. When your compassion expresses in its pure,
raw form innocently, it is tremendous intelligence.
What do you mean by saying the word, consideration of social return? No. The word seems to be
like a big sacrifice. I tell you - looking at the larger picture and working, considering
the social return is an intelligence decision, it is not compassion decision. Judie Smith,
the whole organization needs to understand social consideration is intelligence decision.
Please understand decision of your intelligence and not the decision of your heart. Because
you think it is decision related to heart, you still have oscillation - No, no, should
I do it? how much I should do it? How many rupees I should do it? how many lakhs I should
spend? No. social consideration is the decision from intelligence, not decision from heart.
The whole - how this whole. Each company is a whole which is supposed to fit into the
hole of the whole. The whole has many holes. In each hole, each company as a whole should
fit in. How as a whole you are going to fit with the whole. A boss is expected to feel
how he should be knowing the whole purpose of the organization and the responsibility
of the organization. Same way if the whole team understands the purpose of the organization
and responsibility of the organization, that itself is enough. It is enough. Nothing else
is required. Understand, the enthusiasm, energy and experience of larger vision, larger responsibility
itself is enough to make you do the decisions based on consideration of social return. You
don’t need to infuse compassion. Because, intelligence itself will make you do every
conversation, every decision at every level with the consideration of social return. You
don’t need to do anything separate.
Next question.
Q: Swamiji, I have started Ajapa Japa of Guru mantra. Should I continue to do the japa during
satsang time also? – Indra, Portland
Swamiji: Indra, first thing - if you are not sleeping in the Satsang time, you can don’t
need to do Ajapa japa. Only if you are feeling sleepy, getting distracted, not able to absorb
the silence I am radiating in the morning Satsang. Everyday my morning satsangs are
Upanishads – sitting with the master. Listen to the gaps I give between the words more
attentively than the words I utter. Through the words I utter, I make your inner space
silent; through the gaps I am giving, I make your inner space awakened. Through the words
I make you silent, through my silence I make you awakened! Please understand- my silence
awakens you, words silences you. My words are meant to create silence in your inner
space. My presence is meant to awaken your inner space. So please understand- Satsang
time is the time you absorb the presence intensely, beautifully. So try just sitting. Nothing
else. Don’t do Ajapa Japa. Only if you are not able to sit, you are agitated for some
reason, feeling sleepy, tired, then use ajapa japa as a technique to make you sit awake.
I will not recommend ajapa japa during the satsang. During the satsang, sit imbibing
this timeless space, allowing the Upanishad to happen, allowing these great spiritual
experiences to go in.
Understand, remember this one truth for today. I speak to bring silence to you, I am silent
between the words to awaken you! My silence awakens you. My words silences you. Remember
this one truth. Put more energy and more attention to catch the gaps between my words. Catching
the silence between the words - let that be your 1st priority. Let that become your 1st
priority. Then, naturally words also will go inside. That is okay. But let the catching
the silence become your 1st priority. So, during the morning satsang, no need for ajapa
japa. In the 108 unclutching definitions, I have given a clear definition: when your
consciousness repeats itself continuously without interruption, the ajapa japa of your
consciousness is unclutching!
In the morning satsang, let that unclutching, the Upanishad happen. In the day time, in
the other time, when you are in your regular activities, those moments, use for ajapa japa.
Let you then always be in ajapa japa. Let the morning satsang time be just imbibing
the eternal silence in you.
Q: My parents disapprove of my career choice. How can I do what I want but also keep a happy
relationship with them? Is it even possible? - Siddarth, Bangalore.
Swamiji: Siddharth, if you want my honest answer, the parents need to understand kids
should take the risks in their life. Parents are expected to be a safety net when the kids
take the risk, not the stopping nuts. A real father or mother should not be continuously a stopping nut
- 'don’t do', 'don’t do', 'don’t do', 'don’t do'. This song of don’t do, don’t
do. Come on, if you are a parent, if you feel you child is taking a risk, your son or daughter
is doing something on their own in their career choice or anything related to their life’s
decisions – many time about job, marriage, love affair, so many things. Don’t constantly
sing this song of don’t do. I tell you, when you are not letting your child to take
some risks in their career, you are completely destroying the self confidence and understanding
and responsibility of that child. Your son or daughter, their way of responding is always
taking responsibility. See when a child grows, it'll try to taste everything. Anything it
sees.
I remember very clearly, when I was growing up. It is a village house where I was born
and brought up. They will paint that village lime. I still remember, I'll apply that lime
as vibhooti in the morning and put little in the mouth and taste. It will be very tasty.
Child tries to taste everything. That is the way it starts growing. You give a toy- it
will put in the mouth. That is the way it knows how to feel it. Same way when you grow
up, you try to experiment with things. When the parents start singing the 'don’t do'
song, the possibilities of the children is completely destroyed. One thing I neither
heard in my life, nor ready to listen in my life is 'don’t do'. I neither heard from
my parents, nor ready to listen. This 'don’t do' - parents need to understand, you need
to give a space for your kids to experiment, to play with life. If you really have concern,
be a safety net, take care even if they fall, they are not damaged, you are there as a support.
That is the responsibility of parents. The problem is, nowadays the parents have started
behaving like a business - If you do this way, then I am there with you, if not, forget
about me and my support. It is more or less blackmailing. For that you don’t need a
father or mother. For blackmailing, your boss is enough. Your boss will do that job. Why
then the father or mother? Parents are expected to play the role of safety net when the kids
take the risks, when the kids try to do something extraordinary, something new which you neither
have the guts nor have a brain to try. No, it is true. Many times. Why you are a parent?
Because you are old enough, means your blood is cool, your creativity is gone, practically
you are interested in just maintaining whatever is there and retiring into the safety net
or safe zone. Why are you putting this same thing on your child who is trying to experiment
various components of life, various experiments of life? I have created a beautiful bouquet
of life, life philosophy for myself.
I tell you - O modern youth, if you want to stop the nervous breakdown happening in you,
understand, very intensely the nervous breakdown is happening to modern youth. If you want
to avoid the nervous breakdown, which causes 3"D" – depression, drug, death, not only
that, many other neurological disorders, even for health reasons, I tell you, give a big
'No' to all these “isms” - capitalism, communism, socialism and all religions, all
economic beliefs, all social systems. Just say no to it. Travel for one year to different
parts of your country. If you are in India, you don’t need to go around different parts
of the world. Different parts of the country is enough. Indian is a miniature of the cosmos.
Every 100 km you will have a different thought trend, way of living, dressing style, eating
style, different religion. You have such a rich country. If you are from other parts
of the world, travel to different countries. If you are from India, travel all over India.
Try to say 'No' to the concept of money taught to you by society. Try to drop every concept
taught to you by society - security, insecurity, love compassion, whatever, even the ideas
about God, Guru, everything. Drop everything taught to you by society. Try to travel. I
tell you, you will create a beautiful new life philosophy for yourself. That new life
philosophy which you create for yourself will be so strong, so solid. You will discover
life.
See, if this light is discovered by somebody, you don’t need to re-work. It is matter,
dead matter. If somebody else discovers, you can use it. But, in life you cannot use somebody
else’s discovery. You need to discover. Only your discoveries will help in your life.
This is such a strong teaching. All these so called parents get shaken. They say 'don’t
go to Nithyananda'. Why? - he will make you intelligent, which is too much risk. World
cannot handle too many intelligent people. Because, the more fools, you have more clerks,
more IT engineers.
All that foolish things you do. I am not asking you to take those risks, that is like trying
to live on your adrenaline. No. Lifestyle risks – risks in your thought process, risks
in creating the philosophy of your life, risks in rediscovering your life. So understand,
youth should rediscover their life by taking various risks and new responsibilities, and
parents are expected to support, be a safe net, if not, at least don’t be a hindrance.
Next question.
Q: In my office there is a lot of gossip happening. I don’t want to be a part of it. But, if
I don’t participate I feel like I won’t be successful with my boss. What should I
do? -Rachel, australia
Swamiji: Rachel, immediately change your job. Even if you are successful with this boss
by becoming part of the gossip, you will be a failure in the life. Don’t do this compromising.
If you compromise and become part of that gossip group, you may be successful with your
boss, but you will be a failure in your life. In your life itself, you will be a failure.
Better change the job. This gossip in the work place..
One day the boss was telling the same joke and the whole team was laughing as usual.
Only one person did not laugh. Boss asked 'what happened? you did not laugh for my joke?'
He said 'no, I found another job'.
That is the exact situation you are in. Understand, if you have to do gossiping or becoming part
of a gossip to be successful with your boss, I think your boss is not worthy of you. Understand,
make a clear decision. Just because he has some money to pay you, he should not be boss
for you. He should have little charisma also to add to your life. He can add only money
to
your life, he should not be your boss. He should have little charisma also to
add to your
life along with money. Only then he has the right to be boss for you. All the fellows
who can pay salary to you should not be boss for you. Then your life has nothing other
than money? No. you have a taste, you have a culture, you have possibilities, you have
options, you have your 'yes-es' and you have your 'no-s' in your life. So I tell you, if
you are with a boss who can add only money to you, nothing else, I tell you, your life
will become cheap, too cheap. Be with a boss who
can add charisma to you. Who can add many other dimension to you. Who has something
other than money, something more than money to add to you. If you have to become a part
of a gossip team to be successful with your boss, I cannot understand. There are some
Gurus who just need 2-3 people go on sit and talk whole day. Nothing else is required.
They just sit and go on telling some stories. And people have to sit and listen. If you
have to become part of the gossip group to be successful with your boss I think you are
in wrong place. I have a small clipping from youtube, I will show you - 'how to stop the
office gossip'.
I tell you it is a very powerful technique to
stop
the office gossip, so I call this as 'gossip Kriya'. Nithya kriya
for gossip problems. We will call it as Nithya Kriya for stopping the office gossip!