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[Music Playing: Kacey Musgraves “Follow Your Arrow”] Lip Syncing: So make lots of noise (hey),
kiss lots of boys (yeah), but kiss lots of girls if that’s something you’re into.
When the straight and narrow gets a little too straight,
roll up a joint, or don’t, just follow your arrow wherever it points.
Yeah, follow your arrow wherever it points.
[Music]
Caller: How do you know...
I guess, how...how do you approach a girl without, you know, knowing that...
how do you go to a bar when, you know, not knowing…wha...
does she look gay? Does she not look gay? What do I do?
Blah, blah, blah. Bye!
[Together] How do you...
[Talking over each other] Dannielle: Okay, but, how do you know... Kristin: But it’s a girl... Dannielle: But, let’s say that you’re, well… Kristin: How do you go to a bar?
So, I think what your question was, was how do you know if a girl is gay so you can approach them when you’re out, such as at a bar?
Yeah, I think that was about...
That’s probably what you were going for?
We just had a conversation with someone yesterday about “gaydar,” right?
Oh yeah, we did.
And I think what our message was was like A. absolutely there is no such thing as gaydar,
because you can’t look at a human and know what their desires are,
um, at all…that’s not just not possible.
But, we also discussed the fact that as gay people,
there are sometimes signs that you can pickup on from body language, and eye contact, and the way they interact with you,
that can give you hints on whether or not they might mash your face with theirs.
And I don’t think that you should go up to somebody at a bar or elsewhere and be like...
Nope. No-no-no. Nope.
So I think that the way in is to say, like, hey, how are you?
Hey, I’m good.
Do you want a drink?
Uh, no, I’m good, thanks.
Cool…she’s not interested in all!
No, (Kristin: At all, at all!) literally couldn’t be less, you couldn’t force me to be less interested!
I almost just was like, so, where are you from?
And I was like, no, she doesn’t want to talk to me!
Let’s try again. (Dannielle: Okay.)
Hey!
Oh, hey!
How are you doing?
Uh, pretty good.
I’m good! Can I get you a drink?
I’m actually…I just got one, but do you want to hang out until I’m done with it?
I would love to. We’re gonna have sex.
Yeah, we’re totally about to bone!
[Laughing]
Also, we should all as a community of human beings with varying identities,
we should stop saying “look gay”, because...
was that rude?
No! You’re instructing the next generation.
Yeah! I’m trying to change the world, you guys!
So, the lesson here is that you approach somebody, and you speak to them, and you see if you make a connection.
And if you do, you continue to try to make further connections until you hit a roadblock,
in which case you stop...
Or, you hit a roadblock, and you...have sex.
That's not...you don’t hit a…you would…if you hit the road...
Well, you get to the roadblock, and you’re like I don’t want to drive anymore, let’s bone.
Oh, so in my metaphor, the roadblock was a metaphor,
but in yours, you were in the car with somebody who liked you, and the road was closed...
And the road was closed!
And you just were, like, well, we might as well have sex.
Oh, no! The road is blocked.
Oh, no! What should we do?
[Music Playing: Kacey Musgraves “Follow Your Arrow”] Lip Syncing: Say what you think (say what you think),
love who you love (love who you love), ‘cause you just get so many trips ‘round the sun,
yeah you only…only live once
[Music]
[Music and Whistling]
So make lots of noise (hey)
kiss lots of boys (yeah), or kiss lots of girls if that’s what you’re into.
When the straight and narrow gets a little too straight,
roll up a joint…I would…and follow your arrow wherever it points.