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How To Be The Perfect Woman Personal development is a life long project.
The things you do and the way you do them will help you be ‘perfect.’
Whether you’re inspired by one particular woman or by
specific qualities of different women, you can seek to perfect yourself by
working on your outer and inner characteristics and living your
life with purpose.
STEP #1.
Analyze your role models.
Think of women you consider to be ‘perfect.’
Make a list of the qualities you admire about them.
Consider the things they’ve done in life, their approach
to life, their philosophy of living, their achievements,
their personality, their physical appearance, and
their sense of style.
What is it that all of them have in common?
Think of women you know in real life, celebrities or
historical figures.
STEP #2.
Acknowledge your strengths.
Think about the state of your life now: the things you do,
education you're pursuing, jobs you’re in, your relationships
with others, your physical health.
Consider your personal qualities, too.
Make a list of the things you’re most proud of.
Try to think about examples that prove that you are this way.
For example, ‘I am a good daughter: I call my parents daily/once
a week and speak to them patiently even when I’m pressed for time.’
'I am diligent: I consistently perform to the best of my ability,
I don’t procrastinate and I thoroughly check the standard of my work.'
'I have amazing hair: it’s soft, shiny and long.'
Your list of strengths and proofs will be subjective --
they are unique to you.
STEP #3.
Write an operating definition of perfect.
Of your strengths, which do you consider to be perfect?
Think of your perfections and those of your role models,
and write a few sentences or a list of what you consider will make you
a perfect woman.
What does that look like?
What goals will you achieve that will mean you’re perfect?
What behaviors, attitudes and values will you adopt?
Avoid the words ‘always,’ ‘never,’ ‘should,’ and ‘must’ (e.g. ‘I must
always speak in a polite tone of voice.’)
Such words create unrealistic expectations and disappointment, guilt and
frustration when they’re not met.
Your definition of the perfect woman applies to you: the point of the
exercise is not to be exactly like another woman.
Rather it is to help you define your ideal version of you.
STEP # 4.
Acknowledge your growth points.
Make a list of aspects of your current self that you think keep you from
being perfect.
Every human, even a ‘perfect’ one has some point that can
be viewed as negative.
Remember that it’s a blend of positives and
negatives that create ‘perfection’ in a person.
Take extra caution if any of the women you consider perfect are current
celebrities or people you only interact with through social media.
Personal social media accounts are tailored to reflect only what she
chooses to reveal.
Pictures can be edited and people choose to publicize
the best parts of their lives.[3] Social media profiles are snippets of
people’s lives and this presents a skewed version of reality.