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Hello, I'm Doctor Bernice Bernhard, a New York State licensed psychologist practicing
here in New York City. In this clip we're going to talk about coping with being single.
The first thing I want to say is that there are four ways to be single. One kind of single
is that you're single and you're hoping to find a partner. Another kind is that you're
single and you really are not really interested in finding a partner. Another kind of being
single is that you've been divorced and are therefore single, and still another one is
that you are a widow or a widower and you are also single. But for now, we're going
to talk about the person that's single that does want to find a partner. So the first
thing I'm going to say is I'm not happy with the word coping. That seems to indicate that
it's a problem. Single is not synonymous with loneliness, it's not synonymous with something
being wrong. I think people who are watching this already know how to find somebody to
go out with. The internet, going out, friends, colleagues, family, etcetera. What I want
to say is the way you think about being single is going to be the way you feel about being
single, and that's the most important thing I can say to you. You can go out on Saturday
night or Thursday night and you can dance or go to a play or go to a concert and you
can have a good time. Unless you think I would have a better time if I had a partner. You
can have fun if you think I can have fun by myself and it would be nice to have a partner,
but I'm okay just who I am, so live it, this is your life, this is what you have, do what
you can as you're looking for the person you seek. I'm Doctor Bernhard and thank you.