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It's very interesting to hear your story 'cause my, my own personal experiences, you know,
haven't been the same per se, but that idea of being told that you're good, being told
that you're strong, being told that you're perfect, and all these beautiful ways in which
we are in power also, I feel, take away our ability to really handle our pain, and we're
not really taught what to do with that stuff, and we kind of create this learning that,
you know, "I can't be scared, I can't be angry, I can't be fear," whatever, whatever the darkness
is that we experience, sometimes when we are put in these roles of having to be as such,
we don't get to experience our full, truest selves, you know? Right. And, it's interesting,
'cause even in my own life, I'm learning about that balance. I feel like with some people
who are only in their darkness and they can't get out and it's all about the pain, that
the skills that you learned to pull yourself out and to, you know, be positive and know
that you're gonna get something out of it, are beautiful skills for people to create,
and to learn. But also that idea that, you know, for those of us who hang out in the
positive, who hang out in the light, who hang out in the "everything's gonna be fine, there's
kids starving in Africa and nothing's wrong with my life," that sometimes it's important
for us to be able to access our pain and our darkness and recognize that that's part of
our wholeness, you know. Yeah, absolutely. And when you don't recognize that and you
don't confront it, you could never deny it, like you
could never push it away. It shows up in all aspects of your life. I mean I ended up being
in unhealthy relationships, I ended up having a weight issue, I ended up taking all the
feelings that I was stuffing down inside and they would come out through my weight, through
men, through sex, through whatever it was, because I didn't know how to face it and handle
it. And it wasn't until, that I can actually say, oh, I am angry, I am, that was f-ed up,
that was all those things, that I was then able to take the experience and now be able
to transform it into something good.