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hello and welcome to
a new edition of the mediator in blue jeans
I'm Shawna Leady and in today's
episode we are going to talk about what to do when your boyfriend/girlfriend
were significant other doesn't know
what they want in the relationship
I received an email from Lauri and she waits
my boyfriend and I have been together for five years
he has recently changed his mind about my daughter
and I living with him or moving in
with him we haven't been intimate for over four months
he tells me he loves me every day
but I've asked him today,
what does he want from me? Or if he wants me at all?
he said he doesn't know what he wants he's my best friend and I love him
something fierce
and I don't know what I should walk away now and move on with my life
or try to figure out away to keep our relationship together
please help! well Lauri
it's so hard when someone we love doesn't love us back
the way that we would like but you can't
force someone to love you there's nothing worse than being in a
relationship with someone
who doesn't want to be in a relationship if he doesn't know what he wants
will be close to impossible to move forward with him
however consider this if you truly love each other your relationship
will be and its best when both love you are ready and willing
to in love each other completely for now
don't make any changes to make any major changes especially
instead consider ways you can support his efforts to figure it out
jus you need more time on his own
more independence more money that job promotion our success
in order to feel secured be or
he commits to allow a new and united to move in
if you really doesn't know what he wants no matter what it is he doesn't know
in order to be with you completely then you will need to give him space
to figure it out on his own most important thing
let him come to you
when he's ready or wants to talk most importantly
tell him what you were expecting I realize this type of conversation is
never easy
but you could say something like I love you
and no new you have some things to think about in terms of our relationship
I'll give you the space in time you need to think
no way to hear from you if you want
to target anytime on here just know that I love you very much
and then
take things day by day without
any major expectation of him or
the future if the relationship make sure that he knows that
you there for him and will still love him no matter what he decides
know how long you should wait for him to figure things out
will be up to you you can had ask yourself how much time I willing to wait
before I start to feel frustrated and angry about the situation
you shouldn't put your life on hold
just because he doesn't know the ones
but if you need to know what he wants in order to feel secure in a relationship
and he's not capable of giving them to you
mean you will need to be willing to walk away I know this is the most difficult
option but if you need to know what she wants in order for you to feel
are secure and for your relationships ship to succeed
and he can't give that to you in time you
both will start resenting heat each other it the romantic relationship means
to
in in that it be when Indians rather than what you'd hoped
it would be it doesn't mean you if so can have a friendship with him
with him it just means that you're going to no longer have any romantic
expectations love him injured relationship
if the romantic relationship must indeed you owe it to yourself
injured other to keeping her open to finding someone
who love you completely unwillingly
I wish you on the best well that's all for me tonight
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please feel free to email me at mediator in jeans at gmail dot com
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by for now