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Tiffany: We all have pet peeves, and certainly
in this age of technology it's gotten a little out of hand.
I think if we like talk about it and put it out there
maybe we can make them go away.
Here's one of my pet peeves.
You're with a friend and you want to see a photo
of their child like how they've aged, what they look like.
They pull out their cell phone and they get lost
in like the last year of their lives.
They're like, "Oh, wait a second.
"Oh, look at one more."
By the end of it, you've seen like 6 videos, 20 photos.
You just wanted to see one photo.
I'm Tiffany Shlain.
I'm a mother, filmmaker.
I founded the Webby Awards.
This series is about how the future doesn't start
somwhere far off in the distance,
The future starts here.
Is there anything that people do with cell phones
that annoys you?
Crowd: Yeah.
Tiffany: Okay. Raise your hand. Raise your hand.
Yes.
Girl: When I went on a sleepover or something
with my friends I kind of just want to talk
and they're texting the whole time.
it's really annoying.
Man in hat: Always with the phone. I want to talk to them.
One minute.
Woman in sunglasses: When people pull out their cell phones
at the dinner table.
Woman in glasses: My number one relationship is right here.
(lively music)
Female with red purse: When people take their phone calls
or their conversations on the toilet, public toilets.
Like do I flush now? Is it going to be a problem?
(flushing)
Did you just put that up to your face?
Boy: When people text while driving the car in front of you
and they won't go at the green light.
Woman in glasses: The thing that actually irritates me
the most is when I see police officers doing that.
(whistle blowing)
Woman in glasses: Oh, yes, Text Trafficking.
Tiffany: Is there anything that annoys you
that people do with their cell phones
or social media or Facebook?
Girl in yellow vest: Everything.
Woman in orange: I'm probably one of the people
that annoy other people.
Tiffany: Do you think hearing this will
make you think twice?
Woman in orange: Yeah. Maybe.
Tiffany: We all have pet peeves
and we're probably somebody else's pet peeve.
Voiceover: Good manners show our consideration
for the feelings of other people.
To help us we have rules that we follow.
Tiffany: No one is perfect.
The idea of etiquette actually dates back
thousands of years.
In the 17th Century Louis C.K.,
I mean Louis XIV attempted to set
etiquette rules in stone,
but that doesn't work because everything is
always evolving like today it's very formal
to dab your face with a handkerchief,
but in the 18th Century it was as rude
as blowing your nose in your underpants.
Or it's fine to burp at a table in Japan,
but would not be okay in the U.S. unless
you're a group of boys under the age of 8, or 30.
(belch)
Regardless of where you are or what year it is,
you need to be mindful because etiquette is
all about making sure you are respectful
to the people around you.
Today in the age where everyone's faces is
buried in their cell phone all the time like they're some
magical decoder ring that's going to give them all the answers,
what's actually happening is that it's making people
turn into jerks.
So how do we change these behaviors?
Here are a few ideas.
Don't walk around screaming on your cell phone.
It's like being surrounded with a bunch
of grandpa voices all the time. Hello!
Nobody likes being yelled at.
Use your quiet voice. Shhh.
There used to be days where people would go
into these little boxes to have all their phone calls.
We all need to channel that.
Here's another one.
Don't write long emails.
No one has time to read a novel.
Don't be part of the problem.
Be part of the solution.
We all know that feeling when there's
so many long emails and messages
and texts beeping at us.
It makes us textipated.
So keep them brief people.
Keep them under a hundred words.
This one is really important.
A lot of people are talking about how their kids are
on their cell phones all the time,
but all the kids are saying their parents are
on their cell phones all the time.
Boy: Asking my parents an important question
and they're like, "Yeah, about that quarter."
Tiffany: Don't be a detachment parent.
Be present.
Set an example.
Changing etiquette is all about just thinking
about the people around you, honoring the social contract.
I mean when it comes down to it, we all just need
a little bit of respect.
Everybody just wants to be loved.