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Do you ever ask yourself, why does life have to hurt so bad?
Do you ever find yourself trying to find perspective for life's really, really painful moments, trying to find meaning
in it? Every time somebody in my life comes around when my clients and students have come
to me and said, "Lisa, I don't know how am I going to get through this, and why, why
does this happen to me, why did I get in a car accident, why am I getting divorced, why
did my business fail, why am I having to have this surgery, why is this experience happening
to me?" I like to tell them a personal story. When I was 23 years old, I had a couple of
surgeries on my foot, and at that time, I was what I thought casually dating my husband,
and I ended up having to be bedridden for five weeks. A little you might know about
me just from seeing me on this videos, I have a lot of energy and I'm very much a kind of
person that does everything myself. During that time, I was very vulnerable, and I was
in a lot of pain, and I was really frustrated, and I had to have two surgeries back-to-back,
and it infected, and I had to have [inaudible 00:01:15].
It was almost like bad went to worse, to absolutely horrible. I mean, it really felt like I couldn't
get any worse, and I look back at why that happened, and I'll tell you. During a very
weak moment, very vulnerable, I didn't have insurance for these surgeries, so I knew I
was going to be in a lot of trouble financially, and I said to my boyfriend at that time, "I
don't know how am I going to pay for it," and he reached over, and he grabbed my hand,
and he said, "Don't worry, we'll figure out a way to pay for it." He said that one keyword,
he said, "We." I remember, I get goosebumps right now. It
was one of those moments I'll never forget, and I remembered thinking, "This might be
the guy I marry," and so I honestly thinking my stubborn pride at that time. It took me
being completely vulnerable, completely broken, and having somebody meet me at that point
for me to find my soulmate, and it all ended up working out great. The whole story ended
up very happy ending. We were able to pay it all off and it was all wonderful.
I invite you to adapt the perspective that some of your most painful moments have turned
into pivotal changing points in your life that have allowed opportunities for your greatest
dreams to come in, and I invite you to consider your past, and think about and collect evidence
where that's been accurate, where maybe you thought losing a job was the worst thing in
the world, but it led you doing new and better job, or maybe a guy that you really, really
loved dumped you or cheated on you, and it ended up leading you to the best guy of your
dreams, or maybe you had a bad health experience, and it ended up being revealing and teaching
you something, maybe about an allergy, or something about your body, or something about
your lifestyle, and it motivated you to change. This is why we have those painful moments.
This is why we have those experiences because they're meant to be growth points for us,
so I invite you to adapt that perspective.