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If I do not want what you want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong. Or if
I believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view. Or if my emotion is less
than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, try not to ask me to feel more strongly or
weakly. Or yet if I act, or fail to act, in the manner of your design for action, let
me be. I do not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. That will come only
when you are willing to give up changing me into a copy of you.
I may be your spouse, your parent, your offspring, your friend, or your colleague. If you will
allow me any of my own wants, or emotions, or beliefs, or actions, then you open yourself,
so that some day these ways of mine might not seem so wrong, and might finally appear
to you as right - for me. To put up with me is the first step to understanding me. Not
that you embrace my ways as right for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed
with me for my seeming waywardness. And in understanding me you might come to prize my
differences from you, and, far from seeking to change me, preserve and even nurture those
differences.
You might say I am a drummer of a different drum... just like you.