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Hi this is Patty Contenta with ask an expert answering your love and sensuality questions
today's question is what kind of conversations are men really looking for
on dates is it okay to stick to more fun or flirty
topics or do I need to be worried about impressing
him with my brain in order to get a second date
this is an interesting question actually stopped me in my tracks because I was
wondering are men truly interested in having an intellectual conversation
and in my opinion I believe it's not so much what you say that's relevant but how you go
about it and ultimately the beauty about being a feminine
woman is that we're able to sort of created inviting environment with
even our voices in how we go about having a conversation so
one of things you wanna to be aware of
is are you sharing facts like a reporter where you're just stating facts or you more
of a poet when you speak and in order to be more poetic all you really
need to do is learn how to sort of use adjectives and descriptive words
in your everyday daily life with any situation you want to describe
even when you're on a date so be more poetic is the first thing and secondly
you want to also be aware of how you use your voice there's two ways you can
use your voice one is more sort of active voice which is more motivational
and forward and stating facts and then there's the more passive voice
which if you actually lean back in your chair a
little bit which I'm gonna do right now
you can actually begin to feel what a passive voice sounds like
it's much more supportive soft slows down so when you're sharing anything
with the man go into your more passive voice and use descriptive
words be more poetic have fun with it
kinda like when you go shopping for that dress you know
there's a moment when you buy it you look at it and you he start describing
what it feels like when you have it in your hands that that sort of texture and
how wonderful it feels then you want to put it on
and when you're putting it on you look at yourself in the mirror and you try all
the different angles because you have to look if it's just right
and as you doing that you're getting all excited and elated and you start
twirling inside the dressing room while no one's looking but you know deep down
inside you feel sexier so wanna describing about shopping and buying
a dress I go into those feelings and I think that's what becomes engaging and
said I'm just saying yeah I went shopping today I found this really
cool dress why not sort of embellish the moment a little bit
more with him and I think that's what
in the end men are interested in hearing from you is how you can become more poetic and
less of a reporter