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Hi, this is David Laroche, from the serie "Wake Up Calls",
your alarm-clock to daily boost and shake your life.
During this week we'll go into a subject which will be good for us
in France. We'll speak about... happiness. Seven days together so that I share
with you my vision of happiness, and of how we can do to have access to
a little bit more of happiness. For people who don't know me, I did
a video on what happiness is. There is a link just below this video.
"What is happiness?" You will see me in a little bit more poetic mode speaking
to you about happiness. But now, very concretely, how can you live
happy in this life? I will share with you five principles which help me
to be happier today and which help you as well if you apply them.
First... the first principle is that if you want to be happy, you have to
give yourself the permission to be happy. You have to give yourself the permission
to say to yourself: "I have the right to be happy." It sounds simple,
but many people I coach individually or in my training sessions do not even give
themselves the permission to be happy, because sometimes daddy or mummy
or a person who is important to you did not give you the permission
to be happy. If for example you were full of enthusiasm, having a laugh,
having a ball when daddy or mummy told you: "Calm down". So you have learnt that
by love, and to get love from daddy and mummy, it was better not to be happy,
not to be in enthusiasm. And what happens when you are 20, 30, 40, 50, 70, 80, 90
years old when you are told: "Have a laugh, be enthusiastic!"? You get stuck,
or even you feel like criticizing, denigrating people when you hear them
laughing... because a part of you has been denigrated and criticized
when you have been happy. So first, as an adult give this permission
to yourself. I have the right to be happy and I have the right to have a ball,
no matter if some people don't like this. The question is: do I want to be unhappy
under the pretext that some people enjoy that? Or I offer to myself
the right and the access to happiness. Second, seeing each thing as an
opportunity. Living happy is developing this ability or this skill to see things
from the angle of opportunity. How can I see that thing differently,
to transform it for me and for the others? In fact, and that's my third principle,
living happy is replacing problem with challenge. It's turning all that
is difficult into a positive challenge which will enable you to be happier.
Fourth, according to me, living happy is a question of language. I mean
be careful with the words you use. "I will never get it, it's the crisis,
it's always the same, it's hard, I'm really a big ***, ah...I can't do that,
ah...damn it! I'm really bad, aren't I?" or what else can we say? "Ah... there is
no solution. Nothing goes right in my life. Everything is hopeless." You know,
all this rubbish that we tell to ourselves to spoil our own lives.
Giving to yourself the permission, as I was saying in the first key, also
means giving to yourself the authorization of using the language of a happy person.
A happy person is not excessively positive, he or she is not in a "Care Bears" world.
A happy person sees the glass as half full and is able to speak with the language
of a person who sees the glass as half full. "Yes, it's hard. But I'm seeking solutions."
Rather than "I'm bad", "I'm really extraordinary and I have something
to learn." Get used to valorize yourself. Here is the fourth key.
The fifth one is celebration. To be and live happy, learn to celebrate this live.
If you don't celebrate life, how do you want live to give you more? More things
to be happy if you are not grateful and don't celebrate? Living happy is just giving
to yourself the permission to celebrate little things. Because if you need to
go to the moon to be happy, it will be complicated. But being able to be happy
with a ray of sunlight, with the smile of a child, or just smiling because you are
alive, this is a great way to celebrate. So celebrate big and little things.
These are five principles which will enable you to live happier. But above all,
give yourself this permission. Take this decision. And we meet up
tomorrow for some other advice to reach happiness. Share this video.
It will do good in our french country, or by the way in other countries
where people speak french. See you soon!