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Right, no, it's interesting. I have a little theory, maybe I'll share it with you and maybe
it'll help some people who haven't heard it yet. But, I have a theory, it's called "My
Love Tank Theory," and basically the idea is that people are like cars, right? So in
order for a car to function properly, you have to put gas in the tank, right? The car
is not gonna go anywhere if you have no gas. And in order for a person to feel balanced
and whole, their love tank needs to be full. And, I kind of think of us all having love
tanks, like you can kind of look around and get a sense of how full is that person's love
tank in this moment, how full is my love tank. And, I feel like, when our love tank is empty,
it feels empty. And that's where the anxiety comes from, that's where the stress comes
from, that's where, there's a lot of kind of uncomfortable feelings that come from having
an empty love tank, and we are pleasure-seekers, so we don't want to feel uncomfortable at
any expense, right? And so, how do we, how do we deal with this internal discomfort on
whatever level, either it's conscious or unconscious. And I feel like there's kind of three levels
to which we fill our love tanks. And the first is kind of these addictive tendencies, you
know, the things that give you that quick high, whether it's the sex, the drugs, the shopping,
the eating, whatever it is that makes you feel full momentarily or makes you
feel good, but ultimately makes you feel like crap and kind of just keeps making your love
tank emptier and emptier and emptier. And I kind of think of addiction in that model
too, is that, you're using something that empties your love tank to fill it up, so it's
never gonna, never gonna get full. And then, the second realm are kind of these more "healthy"
ways in which we deal, which are like the distractors, or the exercise, or the, you
know, watching TV, or hanging out with friends, or doing volunteer work or, you know, ways
in which we think that we're doing something positive and good, but they're still keeping
us from dealing with what it feels like to have that empty love tank, you know? And the
idea of "how do I fill my love tank" is really to sit there and give yourself unconditional
acceptance that it's okay that you're uncomfortable right now, it's okay that there's anxiety
in here, it's okay that there's stress in there, it's finding that ability to give yourself
love, when I think of love it's unconditional acceptance, it's that idea of how can I unconditionally
accept where I am right now in this moment. That's amazing. I'm actually doing a course
on exactly what you're talking about. I don't use the term "love tank," but I love that
metaphor. You can steal it. Yeah. My course is called "Uncovering your Awesomeness" and
it is about all those external ways that we try and find happiness, instead of realizing
that all that great stuff is already inside of us. But yeah, we, yeah we definitely don't
wanna be uncomfortable, and we don't want that anxiety and stress, and we don't wanna
look at ourselves and say "Oh, I don't like what I see," and, you know, "Why isn't it
that I don't like that," you know, "Why can't I give myself that acceptance?"