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How come I always get excited about a potential relationship, and then it doesn't go anywhere?
Well this is really interesting because there's a big difference between reality,
and our interpretation or reality.
And a lot of us,
or most of us,
we see life
through our own interpretation of reality.
And so, if reality is this,
and we see it as this,
we get really excited because we think of it as this,
but it's not true reality.
And so, it's very important
to take a moment to really figure out, "alright,
this is my feelings, my emotions, my reactions, my hopes, my dreams,
my fantasies, and I'm
getting caught up
in it,"
versus seeing what the reality is of the situation.
The more willing you are to actually see the reality, the less surprised you will be
by it. Because if you're stuck in your interpretation, your hopes, and your dreams,
and your emotions, and all these things,
then, all of the sudden, reality sets in and you're surprised because you weren't really paying
attention to it to begin with.
So, maybe set up some questions as a reality check.
Oh, well he's wonderful because, blah blah blah blah blah...
Ok.
That might seem true but can you prove that to be true?
You wanna check in with your interpretations of reality,
and challenge them, so that you have
a clear sense of the reality
of the situation that you're in.