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Hi guys, Edin here of the Dating Doctors
Today I am going to show you a video of a girl and me
and how you flirt with her on the straat.
How you start up the conversation, and how you make sure she will like you,
And of course, how you can arrange her number or a date. Enjoy.
I am not crazy or anything, I am not weird.
Only I thought you looked nice and I wanted to meet you.
Oh, thank you.
You look like a very creative girl
who attended the artinstitute.
No, I am creative only I am going to university.
Really?
Yeah,you would not think this, isn't it?
What do you do. You study law or something?
No, I take the International Communication &Media course.
Aha, so you want to enter the international trade business.
Yeah, love to.
And rather a bit creative with branding and marketing.
Branding, Ooh OK.
Most guys
don't know how to talk to a girl on the street,
and how to keep the conversation going.
Well, as you see in the video I approach her
by being straighforward and honest.
I stop her and I say I am not weird.
Actually that is not really honest ;-)
and I say to her that I thought she looked nice, and therefor I wanted to meet her.
Why this is working? Most girls have never been talked to like this on the street,
because most guys aren't that real to begin with.
And you show you're ballsy guy right away.
What I do then to keep the conversation going
is that I use statements.
Well what is a statement? A statement is not a question.
Simple as that.
An example, suppose you want to know how old she is....
Then you could ask; "Hey
how old are you?"
And she will answer.
"21"
Or you could use a statement. You could say like; "You look like
you're 21 years old."
Suppose you're right,
of course she is then impressed by that you know how old she is.
Suppose you're wrong....
Then she will tell you how old she really is,
or she wants to know why you're thinking this.
Anyhow you willl start an interesting conversation.
When I was young my voice broke really late.
I had a very high squeeky voice.
Oh, that sucks.
That is really a pain in the *** when you're in school.
Yeah, I wasn't really popular back then too.
Yeah, you get this with this mean children in school.
Boys, like you've heard I am not that popular,
so please like me on Youtube ;-)
No, let's get serious.
I do this with a reason.
You now have an interesting conversation with a girl
because you made some statements.
Well how you manage to get her to like you?
Well, what I do is
that I don't take myself that seriously. I don't really care to make fun
of myself.
It only shows that I am confident,
and that I really don't care about anything.
What is even better, is that I can do this also;
Yeah, cool....but.....
you look also
you know, like the shoes and so on....
Yeah, a bit like the creative and that sort of things.
It gives me sweet and nice feeling.
Makes me think of my grandma.
O yeah? I don't know if this is a good thing to say.
You know when guys are saying; "This girl makes me think of my mother."
Or when they say; "You make me think of my grandma?"That isn't always a good sign.
For me it's a positive thing.
Really? Like something homy and cosy sort of thing.....
I don't know, I like cuddling and so on,
and you always cuddled with your mother and your grandma.
If I would say; "you make me think of my father..."
That would be a bit of a shame.
Then it would be bad, I think.
Yeah, then I would come across a bit manly, and that isn't okay.
Funny isn't it?
She makes me think of my grandma.
I did make a joke about her.
Why I am doing this?
It shows that I am not afraid of her.
That I am not impressed by her.
That I don't try to make an impression on her or that I want to put her on a pedestal.
People don't want to be put on a pedestal, because they can't
take the pressure.
They want to see you as an equal and to communicate with you like equals
Besides that
I also make fun of myself.
and this optimum balance is perfect. That's because if you
only make fun of her
then you will be considered by people as an arrogant
***.
And when you only make fun of yourself
well then people will see you as insecure.
And then they will walk all over you.
Further more it's very important
to show you're serious side as well,
otherwise naturally there won't be any *** tension.
You look like a nice girl to hang around with.
Hi, hi, thank you.
"I feel popular right away." "You feel cool right away?"
Come lets grap a drink.
No sorry, I have to study man.
So what, it just takes 15 minutes.
No, it really isn't possible. I have to go home now.
No, you have to get your bike.
Yeah, get my bike en then go home.
"Where do you live?" "In the westpart of Rotterdam."
Ah, Nieuwe Binnenweg.
No, close to Marconiplein.
It's a bit like a ghetto there.
OK, so you made sure she likes you,
and you want to get her number of have a date with her.
But what is important then
is that you give her a reason why you like her.
Well, if you don't
just walk away, because you don't really need her number of facebook then, except
maybe when she has nice girlfriends.
But it is important you give her a reason why you want to go on a date with her,
or why you ask for her number.
As you see in the video
I say to her she is cosy and she has a nice energy.
And I immediately invite her for a date with me,
only she does not say "yes" right away.
We don't really know eachother, only you have a really good energy.
I am happy with that.
And your T-shirt says "Love & Hope".
so you're a bit of a treehugger.
Smart....
Someone who wants to share happiness and love.
Yeah, only I really can't do this.
I just told you
I wasn't really popular...
No you put me down again in the group of losers.
No, aaa, no. Really no.
Really, I really sincerely would have done this if I wan't dating someone now.
So what, we could just start like friends.
I will take off
my nice clothes and will put on my scrubclothes again
so you can't consider me as a friend again.
Oh, that really isn't possible....
OK, she is not saying "Yes" right away.
She says "No" because she has to leave.
Well important in this is, that
when you ask for her number or a date
and she says "No"
that you don't feel rejected immediately and that you won't try
to convince her with empty logical reasons like:
I am very smart, I have a lot of money, I have an enormous big
personality ;-)
It is important that you change her emotions
and not her thoughts.
Like you see in this video
I just make some jokes
and in this way I am still trying to get her on a date with me.
So what's your name again?
And your lastname?
OK, let's look.
Well, that will be difficult because they're are like a lot.....ooh hipster.
A really old Samsung phone.
I did not see this often.
But I have a Huawei,
so nobody has that 1 too.
Like you see
I finish with her Facebook.
How did I do this? She was dating with a guy for already half a year.
That is why she really did not want
to go with me on a date or to give me her number.
But I lifted the responsibility of her shoulders.
I litterally said; "What is your surname and last name?"
and I looked for her on Facebook.
Why I am doing this?
When you lift the responsibility of her shoulders
you will get much more numbers
and Facebooks.
What is the last time that you
have give your full name to a random guy on the street?
Well, I have to give it to you, I only did this once before.
But you know what it is? Most guys do like
"Hey baby. Yes, nice ***!"
And then you think; "Yeah, bye..."
Guys don't really do this like you do, so yeah....
How do you mean?
As positive, normal.
Just good fun.
So you really are doing something right here.
What did you liked about it?
Well you approached me and you said; "I just like the way you look." and only a small number of guys do this.
So you really have to keep doing this
Girls really like it.
Because you really make my day now.
Nice. Yes, you make my day too!
Just with the way you're handling yourself and your energy. That's always nice.
Thank you. Luckily.