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Hello, I'm Paudie Callaghan and welcome back to part 3 of How to overcome all fears. THE
BIG ONE... Fear Of Failure
I do not think that there is any greater fear or road block in the personal development
world than this one. I intended to keep this one short, but there is a lot of depth to
removing this obstacle, so this section goes on longer than most. However, if you do fear
failure, then this should put that to bed for you. If it doesn't on the first listen
through, by the tenth, over a period of ten days then it surely will! What I am going
to share here may not be enough for you yet though, as you may be so unconscious when
you are consumed by this state, that no words will be able to penetrate your self-imposed
barrier to them. However, I see a very positive outcome for you if you are able to remain
present and absorb them. (There is no-one that this will not work for who allows themselves
to absorb and accept it...As always, I'll open the door, but you have to walk through.)
People allow their fears to stop them to the point of absolute failure because they are
afraid of making mistakes. Why? Simple, we have been programmed since childhood not to
make a mistake. However, this is the natural state for us to be in to learn. We learnt
to walk by failing and making mistakes, we learnt to speak by making mistakes and failing
to pronounce words. If you are trapped in a job that you don't like then you are paralysed
by your fear of being worse off by your actions than you are right now.
However, there are good mistakes and bad mistakes, i.e. there are two types. There are mistakes
of ambition and mistakes of procrastination. The first is the result of a decision to take
action. This type of mistake is my favourite and is made because I have acted with incomplete
information and discovered a new way to fail. It is of course impossible to have all of
the facts beforehand. This sort of mistake is a good thing and is to be prized as it
serves as a signpost. Usually, from these initial mistakes, the actual correct path
is found. But if you never stepped on to the wrong path (because you feared failure and
mistakes), then of course you would never find the correct one. Mistakes of this sort
are to be encouraged. Fortune favours the bold. Or another way to describe it is: active
people get lucky!
The second type of mistake is decision of sloth (to procrastinate). This is where we
literally refuse to change a bad situation in our lives out of fear. This is despite
even having all of the facts. The popular phrase for this is analysis paralysis. It
is how bad relationships become bad marriages and how poor job choices become prison sentences,
which last longer than a sentence for ***! So if this is you then aren't you fed up living
this way?
People fail to quit their procrastination because they are concerned about what others
think. What others think is totally, completely and absolutely irrelevant to us unless we
require their help to move forward (do yourself a favour and don't move on until you understand
that no-one can harm you unless you give them permission to do so). So be bold and don't
ever worry about what other people think. A fear of failing is a fear of living. Stop
fearing living and start living your life as it really isn't a dress rehearsal. Ask
yourself if you died today then would you live in regret that you didn't take action?
Ok, Let's cut to the chase. It's time to totally dissolve your fear of failure and give you
absolute power over it. I know you want that so I'll also help you over the want hurdle!
Just relax and imagine that you are inside your head observing your ego's reactions.
Just observe them, do not judge them. Are You There? You are now listeninmg to this
with 50% of your consciousness and the other 50% is inside your head patiently waiting
for a reaction. Now relax and ask yourself, What possible benefit can fear of failing
have for me in helping me get to where I desire to go? Pause and think for just a few seconds...
If the answer was, My fear is protecting me from danger, then you are unconscious and
it was your ego who spoke (accept it and move towards consciousness or argue and stay where
you are - it is now your choice). Danger is not about fear, it is about understanding
risks. Fear has no place there, try again... Become conscious, feel the emotion as you
ask, your thoughts will lie to you, your emotions will not. Ask yourself, What possible benefit
can fear of failing have for me in helping me get to where I desire to go?
The answer of course is none, but don't judge yourself if you can't agree with that yet.
You now know what to do to dissolve thought patterns. Just re-read and re-read until they
are not there anymore (this really is the answer and your ego will not like it as it
uses your fears to keep you restrained). Fear of failure is just something that needs to
be seen by you for the illusion it is and then you will no longer feel the need to have
this fear anymore. In fact you will not feel anything about fear of failure as it is worthless
to you and therefore it will just not be there anymore.
This is the biggest barrier in the fears group and it is one of the biggest barriers of all.
But when you see it for the illusion it is, which has been created by your mind, then
it simply is no longer there...
I would Love to get your feedback and thoughts, Please leave me a comment below in the comments
section... My name name is Paudie Callaghan, do stay tuned for part 4 and i'll speak to
you very soon. Thank You.