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Hey. So I've been thinking about a couple friends of mine and I wanted to talk about
them today but anyway, I didn't feel like outing either one of them, so I'm gonna talk
about them in general and what they have in common which I think is what is really awesome,
one of many things that is really awesome about them.
And that is when they share their lives on social media, yes they share about their kids
sports achievements, And they share about the random thing, like the hot water heater
going out or whatever it is that day, that's great.
But they manage to share their lives in a way that through the down times and the up
times, the people that follow them, they're with them.
You know even, they find the silver lining, they find the thing to laugh at. But they're
real about it. You know, that's what's really great about
them. There's too much not real going on in our world. And it's not like all of sudden
with social media we've cleaned and polished our lives, the parts we show people.
I mean, we've been doing it for a long time. Right? I'm sure it was happening long before
social media. We like to pretend that we have things much more together than we actually
do. But there's something about the way we share ourselves on social media, we're this
bright shiny perfect. Or there's the people who go completely the other way and talk about
every horrible thing. But we're not talking about that today. We're
talking about these people share honesty their lives, what's going on, and it makes people
say, yeah, I've had that happen too, yeah, I've been there too. And all of a sudden these
feelings I've had about myself about not being good enough, or you know, I didn't do that
the way I should have. Oh wow, somebody else is like me. Wow, somebody else has gone thought
the same kind of trials.
And what a difference it makes. Because when we can as a group, as a society as a group
of people who care about one another can say, yeah yeah I've struggled with trying to figure
that out too, I don't know the answer I don't clean up my house as it would look if I was
on a sit-com, because their houses are completely ridiculous if you ask me.
I just. When we put ourselves up to those standards. When we put ourselves up to the
shiny standards of what most people post on facebook, it's just about pretty sunsets,
and things like that. Not about the nitty gritty things of like mental illness of just
being sad or a grief situation or pain or whatever.
We like to pretend its not there. And I'm not saying I'm not guilty of that too
We need to be real with one another, whether it's in the social media world or in person
with other people. We need to be real with each other because when we are real we can
see. Hey look! Everybody else is having the same issues I am, everybody else has insecurity
like I do, everybody else doesn't do things perfect.
And if I could really believe that, if you could really believe that, if we could really
believe that none of us are Martha Stewart and we're never gonna be, unless you know
we really are Martha Stewart or we have staff. It's not gonna happen. So like, let it go.
Like let it be OK, that in one person's case, the kids run around the house naked because
that's what they like to do. Fine who cares. Nobody's judgin'. Isn't it great that they
know how to be free.
Right?
Who cares if you can't make the perfect cookies. There's a lot of people who can't make the
perfect cookies. That's why we have people who we call Bakers because they know how to
make perfect cookies.
Like so what?
What's important is that we take care of one another. What's important is that we care
for one another, that we have compassion for one another and for ourselves. We love ourselves.
That's way way way more important than some superficial whatever.
And so I call on these friends for being very brave, and just saying the realness of their
situation and how they feel about what's going on. Because they remind us that we all have
those feelings of insecurity and those feelings of not good enough-ness and wondering if they're
ever gonna figure it all out. Well I don't know. I haven't found anybody who said they
had it all figured out yet. So my guess is that the answer is no, nobody's got it all
figured out, whatever 'it' is.
So how about we just work on being kind to ourselves how about we just let it be OK for
real to happen. When real is happening to say if I don't like for it to happen this
way, instead of being upset at myself for it happening this way, say ok, so what can
I do different next time. What can I do different next time so maybe I don't end up in this
situation. Why not?
Anyway, hey we're all in this together, we're all on this planet together, we're all in
this life together. Let's all be nice to each other ok and be nice to ourselves.
Blessings.