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Welcome and thank you for joining us.
During tonight's show we will be discussing some of the characteristics
of manipulate of people.
Tonight's guest is a world-renowned clinical psychologist and the author of
several books on the subject.
So, what should someone do when faced with the prospect of dealing with a
manipulator of individual.
Dealing with the people in your life who are manipulative can often be difficult.
This does not have to be the case if you understand the mind off a manipulative
person.
This understanding comes from careful study of their individual behavior
patterns.
These behavioral patterns are usually caused by either a sense of entitlement
or the insecurity within the offending individual.
It happens because they feel they are important and deserve to have everything
that they desire or they are afraid to other people are most
successful than they are in their lives.
The behavior of a manipulative person does not now understand the concept of
boundaries.
They will be relentless in their pursuit of the chosen outcome.
They will not stop until they have achieved their goal and often have no regard
for who gets hurt along the way.
This can affect both family and personal relationships
as well as workplace interactions.
The pattern of a manipulative person is often to always want greater material
wealth and possessions.
They often take for granted social relationships and can never be satisfied
with the success personally
or professionally that they have acquired.
This behavior happens because most individuals with a manipulative
personality do not like themselves as people.
If they were able to come to any level of inner-peace they would not know what
to do with themselves.
Setting proper personal boundaries with manipulative individuals is essential to
surviving such relationships.
If you do not assert your personal power to say no you will become just another victim.
Manipulative individuals often thrive on the power gathered from controlling the
emotions and actions of other people.
If you show that you will not be controlled they lose their power and in some
instances learn at least a certain amount of humility.
Compromising with such an individual is not advisable.
They will immediately begin trying to find a way to word the conversation in
order to get the desired outcome.
Keeping contact with manipulative individuals is not a necessity.
In fact in most cases it is best to go on with your life as if they cannot
affect your emotions.
This way the messages sent that their behavior will not be tolerated.
If this trough of approaches employed long enough to buy a significant amount
of people the offending individual may feel the need to change to the more
acceptable method of social
interaction.
Another type of manipulation is the assertion of superior intellect.
These individuals using this method will try to make you feel inferior to them so
they can gain control of your thinking patterns and
making processes.
Such people required a vision to combat.
You must have a significant amount of self-confidence and the ability to stand
up for your conviction.
Once again these people are insecure with their own level of intelligence and try
to bring inflation to their an important in social and business situations.
When they are questioned
on details they're confident nature's often quick to fall away.
The aggressive nature of the manipulative person is actually an over
compensation for lack of understanding or knowledge.
Their assumption is that if they are aggressive in verbally outspoken no one
will challenge their authority.
The minute a person is able to see through their smoke screen all power is
lost.
The need to control is often at the root of all manipulations.
Therefore keeping one's eyes upon the big picture at all times as necessary.
Do not be concerned about using social relationships with manipulative people.
Instead focus energy on completion of individual personal professional objects
is time and energy better spent.
Manipulation is any possible when opportunity and power is provided.
Therefor it is imperative to have specific expectations and regulation of
all interactions in social environments.
It is acceptable to remove from interaction that any individual who is incapable of
following the stated rules and regulations.
When the power of manipulative individualists challenged, they will
often flee the situation on their own.
Ultimately claiming your own personal power is a great approach to removing
manipulative individuals from your life.
Sorry but we are out of time and that concludes tonight's show.
God bless and good night.