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Hello, I'm Doctor Bernice Bernhard, a New York State Licensed Psychologist, practicing
here, in New York City. In this segment, we're going to be talking about effective parenting
when raising teens. We live in a complicated world and we live in a world where many of
you were not experienced with some of the things that the children are going through
now, as teenagers. We did not have ipods, we did not have cell phones, we were not able
to talk with several friends at the same time on the internet. They need to know though,
that the rules are the same as when we were young and that they have to be respectful,
that they have to do their school work, that they have to be home on time, if they're driving,
they need to be home, they need to keep their curfew. And, if possible, the consequence
for them needs to fit whatever it is that they didn't do. So, if they come home past
midnight and their curfew was midnight, then they don't get the car for a week. If they
don't do their homework, then they can't go out for the next weekend and see their friends.
The other thing I would do because the relationship you have with them is very important, is share
the truth. You don't want to share certain things that are personal between you and your
partner, but there are certain things you should share. Like if you were upset with
a boss that spoke to you, because then, they'll talk to you if they were upset with a teacher.
Conversation is the most important thing that's going to keep them away from the things you
would like them to be kept away from. Write a contract and keep to it, and remember that
some of the things they do, teach them is a privilege, it's not a given. Thank you!