Tip:
Highlight text to annotate it
X
I think that the biggest challenge with trying to be happy is that it really sets us up for
failure. You know happy, joy, it's an emotion, meaning it's coming and going, there are ups
and downs. To put yourself in a position where you feel like you are expected to be happy
all of a time is actually counterproductive because it doesn't allow for you to have your
natural range of experiences. I think in this case happiness is closely related to being
more positive and being more optimistic and that you have a choice in any situation; its
not what is happening to you its how you choose to respond to it. And as a coach I'm a big
believer that you have to make lemonade and you have to use all of the lemons that life
throws at you, all the curve balls that life throws at you and turn it into something that
works in your benefit. We all have a core that is happy that tends to get covered up
by really challenging life experiences by hurts, by pains, by rejection and by circumstances
that we can't move past. So well self medication is an option, it actually just prolongs the
pain because the only way out is through. You know you have to feel it to heal it. So
if you are self medicating than the next step is to say why and to get support around why
you're self medicating so that you can free the happiness that is underneath all of the
pain.