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DONE FOR THE WEEKEND.
HIGHS IN THE MID-70s NICE FOR
EVERYONE.
HEATHER AND DAVE.
DAVE: WE HAVE GOT A TOP NEW YORK
DIVORCE ATTORNEY HERE AND SHE IS
THIS INCREDIBLE BOOK.
WHAT DO YOU THINK SHE'S WRITING
ABOUT --
HEATHER: HOW TO NOT GET
DIVORCED, RIGHT?
DAVE: WHY PEOPLE SHOULD GET
MARRIED STRANGE FOR A DIVORCE
ATTORNEY.
HEATHER: IN ADDITION TO THE
REASONS OF LOVE SHE'S GOING TO
HELP GIVE US TIPS HERE.
VICKIE, AUTHOR OF THE PREMARITAL
PLANNER COMPLETE LEGAL GUIDE TO
A PERFECT MARRIAGE AND JOINING
US LIVE WELCOME TO GOOD DAY.
GIVE US REASONS WHY PEOPLE
SHOULD GET MARRIED.
WE'RE BOTH HAPPILY MARRIED WE
SHOULD SAY.
NOT TO ONE ANOTHER.
>> IF YOU DON'T PLAN FOR THE
MARRIAGE AND JUST FOCUS ON THE
WEDDING YOU HAVE BIG PROBLEMS
THAT'S WHY STATISTICS SHOW 50%
FAIL FIRST TIME.
WE IMMEDIATE TO MAKE SURE YOU'RE
MARRYING THE RIGHT PERSON
EMOTIONALLY GETTING NAKED BEFORE
YOU GET MARRIED.
YOU WANT TO KNOW EVERYTHING
ABOUT THE PERSON.
WOULD YOU MARRY ME?
THAT'S A GREAT QUESTION IF
YOU'LL SAY NO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM
SHOULDN'T BE GOING DOWN THE
AISLE DON'T JUST SPEND A LOT OF
MONEY ON THIS WEDDING.
YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY.
EVERYBODY IN AMERICA WANTS TO BE
HAPPY BUT MOST ARE MISERABLE.
THAT'S WHAT I'M HERE FOR.
HOW TO BE HAPPILY MARRIED TALK
ABOUT THE ISSUES THAT ARE SO
IMPORTANT BEFORE YOU WALK DOWN
THE AISLE.
DAVE: YOU LOVE YOUR SPOUSE AND
SO MUCH FUN WHEN YOU GO TO
DINNER EVERY WEEKEND AND ALL OF
A SUDDEN YOU FIND OUT --
YOU KNOW THEY'RE NOT SAVERS,
FINANCIAL PRIORITIES ARE
DIFFERENT AND RESENT YOUR
SPOUSE.
>> THOSE SKELETONS COUPLE OUT OF
THE CLOSET.
HOW COME YOU DIDN'T TALK IT
BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED?
GO THROUGH QUIZZES AND LOVE
POINTERS.
I WANT TO KNOW WHAT'S IN YOUR
SAFETY DEPOSIT BOX DID YOU HAVE
MONEY STASHED TALK ABOUT THE
ASSETS YOU HAVE, HOW ABOUT DEBT.
I KNOW I LOVE TO SHOP.
IT'S KIND OF EMBARRASSING.
BUT WHEN YOU'RE HONEST ABOUT IT
AND SAY THIS IS MY DEBT HOW DO
WE PAY IT EACH MONTH AN YOU CAN
KEEP YOUR CORVETTE ACCOUNT I CAN
KEEP MINE --
AND HAPPILY DO IT INSTEAD OF
HIDING THE CLOTHES IN THE TRUNK
BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED.
HEATHER: IF YOU'RE DEALING WITH
A DISHONEST PERSON SOME MIGHT --
HIDE THAT STUFF FROM YOU HOW DO
YOU GET TO THE BOTTOM OF IT?
AND KNOW WHERE THEY STAND.
>> THAT'S THE BIG PROBLEM
SECRETS COME IN BEFORE THE
MARRIAGE.
SECRETS CREATE AND BECOME MORE
ABUNDANT DURING THE MARRIAGE
THAT'S WHERE THE COMMUNICATION
BREAKS DOWN.
IT'S ABOUT HONESTY.
THE BOOK TALKS ABOUT LOOKING AT
YOURSELF IN THE MIRROR, THE
GOOD, BAD UGLY BE HONEST BE WITH
OURSELVES AND OUR PARTNERS.
PUTTING YOUR PARTNERSHIP FIRST
AND BEING HONEST ABOUT WHAT YOU
HAVE AND WALKING INTO THE
MARRIAGE WITH.
STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES.
WE HAVE THEM.
DAVE: VICKY A LOT OF PEOPLE
DON'T GO INTO MARRIAGES YOU'RE
NOT NECESSARILY THINKING, YOU
KNOW, WHAT --
HE'S A LIAR SHE'S A LIAR.
I THINK PEOPLE --
KEEPS SOME OF THESE SECRETS
BECAUSE THEY'RE EMBARRASSED.
BECAUSE THEY'RE WORRIED THAT
THEIR HUSBAND OR WIFE OR FUTURE
HUSBAND OR WIFE WON'T LOVE THEM
OR BACK OUT OF THE DEAL IF THEY
SAY I HAVEN'T PAID BACK MY
SCHOOL LOANS IN 15 YEARS.
>> I GET IT.
DAVE: FORGIVE ME IF I
MISPRONOUNCE THIS --
COUNSELING WITH A FINANCE PERSON
AS MUCH AS YOU DO TO PRIESTER
THE RABBI BEFORE YOU GET
MARRIED.
>> YOU HIT IT ON THE NOSE.
STRESSING PRENUPTIAL AGREEMENTS.
EVERYBODY NEEDS DIFFERENT TYPE
OF EXPERTS WHAT MY BOOK TAKES
ALL OF THE INFORMATION OVER THE
LAST 13 YEARS OF PRACTICE AND
PUTS IN THE BOOK EACH CHAPTER
WHAT YOU SHOULD BE TALKING
ABOUT.
NOT WHAT IS YOUR INCOME HOW DO
YOU SAVE?
HOW ARE YOU RAISED WHEN IT COMES
TO MONEY.
WHAT'S VERY ATTITUDES.
DO YOU HAVE DEBT AND HOW MUCH
AND HOW CAN WE PAY IT DOWN?
WHO WRITES THE CHECKS.
I'VE TAKEN THE INFORMATION YOU
DON'T HAVE TO GO TO AN EXPERT IF
YOU HAVE ISSUES GO IT A
THERAPIST PLEASE I THINK
EVERYBODY NEEDS TO.
BUT THIS BOOK HONESTLY WILL GIVE
PEOPLE THAT INFORMATION THEY
NEED.
IF YOU'RE PLANNING FOR A WEDDING
I KNOW YOU BOTH HAVE BEEN
MARRIED HOW COSTLY IT IS.
FOR 19.95 IT CAN'T HURT.
I'M TRYING TO HELP PEOPLE.
COME ON.
[LAUGHTER]
IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU'RE SAYING IT
BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED YOU HAVE
TO LOOK AT THIS AS A BUSINESS
PLAN A LOT OF THEM DON'T DO THAT
BUT BECAUSE THEY LOVE SOMEBODY
AND YOU HAVE TO TAKE STEPS BACK
AND THINK ABOUT THIS FROM A
BUSINESS POINT OF VIEW.
>> IT'S A BUSINESS PARTNERSHIP I
DON'T CARE WHAT ANYBODY SAYS.
HEATHER: IT'S OKAY --
>> EMOTIONAL AND BUSINESS
PARTNERSHIP.
IT'S A FACT IF WE DIDN'T DEAL
WITH MONEY WE WOULDN'T BE
TALKING HERE.
WHEN THEY COME TO ME THIS IS A
BUSINESS DEAL.
IF YOU CAN REMOVE THE EMOTION
OUT OF IT GOING TO GET YOU
DIVORCED FASTER IF NOT IT'S A
DIFFICULT ROAD.
HEATHER: SOUNDS CYNICAL.
DAVE: WE THINK IT'S CYNICAL BUT
IN REALITY IT'S PRACTICAL YOU
HAVE TO --
YOU GET MARRIED, ARE WE GOING TO
SEND THE KIDS TO PRIVATE SCHOOL,
PUBLIC SCHOOL, GOING TO GET THEM
INVOLVED IN SPORTS THAT ARE
EXPENSIVE.
WHERE ARE OUR PRIOR PRIORITIES?
HOW DO YOU SPEND MONEY?
>> DISCIPLINARY CAN YOU HAVE
CHILDREN?
DAVE: IT'S PART OF A BROAD LIST
OF THINGS WHICH YOU HAVE TO --
UNDERSTAND IF YOU CAN HAVE A
GOOD FOUNDATION.
I THINK A LOT OF US GET
SURPRISED.
>> REALITY BASED.
YOU THROW THINGS UNDER THE RUG.
WHAT HAPPENS?
GOING TO HIT A MIND FIELD YOU
HAVE TO TALK ABOUT THESE THINGS.
THE BOOK IS SO CRUCIAL AND
IMPORTANT I PUT MY HEART AND
SOUL INTO IT.
DAVE: WE TALKED ABOUT ALL OF
THIS STUFF AND I'M RETIRING NEXT
MONTH.
>> THAT SECRET ACCOUNT.