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It’s so great to really see that we have so many agendas
and we have been trained to have so many agendas.
So, just your own ability to see yourself so honestly
and nakedly and just, you know, clearly, just seeing all of this
is a great result of the short moments.
Because through the short moments, where you just make that decision
to let everything be as it is, so simple and so powerful
that’s your direct access to totally see reality as it is through your own experience.
So, I have had many, many moments of seeing many agendas
and, you know, in the end it’s just funny!
I mean, what is all this about and for what?
And when you really look at that and reflect on that,
I mean, last summer we heard from Candice, “Just come here and wanting nothing.”
That question, or that sentence, has just kind of never left my mind.
And whenever that pops up in the middle of any situation,
you know, it’s blown open.
All this, “I need to do this, that and the other to be liked,
to be special or not special, or to hide, or to speak up or,”
you know this, all variations of that.
So, that is why the single instruction of the short moments,
where you just rely on yourself as open intelligence, as that stable ground,
that is the whole experiment going on.
And where is it going on? Only in our own experience.
So, whenever we have doubts about anything,
just check, be practical, see.
What is your own very practical, very direct result
of just testing if it is safe to let everything be as it is?
Am I safe and stable within all experiences?
Just to test it, to see.
And it’s such, just a very practical tool, to
to just list those practical results.
I’ve done that many times. Or read your own value letters.
To read your own value letters where you clearly see the result of this Training
just blows open any ideas we have about the world or anything about anything.
So, it’s really clear in my experience that,
to be able to speak up for something that’s bigger than my data,
that’s just like, you know, “I’m afraid now or I’m, you know, this, that and the other,”
only comes from really seeing myself fully
and see that I, there isn’t anywhere to hide and there isn’t any datum that
ever, ever was a problem,
because we will always have data running,
but that’s not a problem.
I mean, it’s so simple, why was all this data a problem?
I mean, it’s so clearly seen that when we start to describe all these data,
that’s just where we get into so many problems.
Instead of just letting them be as they are and just go on with our life,
if we just jump in and we just categorize, we describe, we focus on the problems,
we don’t want to have these data.
It’s so powerful to really, to see that,
as it was asked, as soon as any datum is forming,
any thought is coming right now, to make a decision there and then to test:
is it fine to just let it just do its thing,
without going in there to micromanage anything?
And it really takes some getting used to.
It really takes some getting used to! It’s so tempting to do something about data, isn’t it?
Aaargh! So tempting!
We have our favorites,
and I can see you’re thinking about your favorite strategy right now!
I’m at least, I’m doing that!
And that’s when we know each other, right?
It’s so clear; we can see this—argh!— pulling this, that and the other, and,
it’s only really when we test that we are safe,
for instance, speaking up and we feel so,
maybe nervous or afraid or,
you know, when we feel we want to just jump into an intimate relationship
and we don’t do it, that’s when we see our power.
Because if we go on about life in the same social experiment as we have done
with acting, reacting, na-na-na, with all this data that’s running the show all the time
and just focusing on the data and never give the data to, any chance to settle.
You know, we know what happens.
So, in the short moments, that is really where we test
and we see, with the support of the Mainstays, that it is safe to do that test.
“What happens if I am not acting on this *** desire right now?
What happens if I just let myself fully experience
anything around this *** desire or
this daydream about that special, special, special, special one?
There’s never been someone so special as this one, this time!”
So funny! I’m, so many times I had the same thought!
But, who was the special one then? It’s always changing!
So ridiculous! Always changing because that’s the nature of any datum.
Always changing, changing, changing
and it’s very exhausting to keep on just following this show.
But I’ve seen that, and I know all of you know that, when you
let all of this settle, like the muddy pond, you try to look something, you know, and
it’s just getting more and more muddy.
But when you just don’t go in there and stir, you don’t do anything
it just becomes clear.
So, you’re totally capable to make decision
around, “Should I go into an intimate relationship or not?”
So, I’m not saying that you somehow now don’t make decisions anymore.
But we are really able, then, to make clear decisions for how would we
really like to show up in the world.
So, this thing about feeling arrogance while doing service or arrogance at all,
great to see it! It’s so powerful.
It’s not about not feeling all of that,
but what takes more and more over is your desire to be of benefit.
So, while being irritated and while being so arrogant and having all those thoughts,
you will always have those thoughts,
in one way or the other. If you notice that or not, you know,
but it’s there; it’s the display of who we are as a human being, all this data.
But what takes over is that
massive vibe of great benefit, where we just want to
serve the other person in that moment,
even if you think you can do that task better.
So, how would you like to show up in that moment?
And have those thoughts?
Maybe you have some solutions on how you can give some ideas,
or how, you know, all of this is just available then.
When you take a short moment and you just are in this
massive vibe, this massive flow of benefit,
where you don’t care about micromanaging your own thoughts and emotions anymore.
It’s boring, exhausting, out-dated, finished,
don’t want to do it anymore.
And that is a very crucial point here, it doesn’t mean that you don’t have data,
it doesn’t mean that you don’t have thoughts and emotions anymore.
Because, if you are like how I was when I came to the Center for the first time,
I had a big backpack of many, many thoughts and emotions
I was so ready to get rid of.
I was so ready and I was so believing to get rid of all of this!
And little did I know at that time that
the gold was in my backpack;
the secret treasure was just in my backpack.
The power to be completely stable and live a complete, satisfying life were in that backpack.
That’s just revolutionary in my own life and then, you know, in everyone’s life.
So, it’s just so obvious that when we decide to live a lifestyle, a lovestyle,
surrounded with people that don’t discuss data,
that don’t throw data on each other,
you don’t want to do it either!
You just immediately feel that relief
of not doing that anymore.
So, it’s so obvious to do this together.
Or, if you are alone somewhere or together with people, just plug in and listen to a talk
and there! You have taken a short moment immediately.
If you don’t know what a short moment is for you right now, that is so normal.
Just, plug into a talk
and that’s a short moment.
Yeah, so it’s just so obvious that we could never do this alone.
We need role models and we need examples.