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DO SOME OF YOUR SISTERS MAKE A LITTLE TOO MUCH DRAMA SOMETIMES?
YES, THEY DO. THEY MAKE DRAMA FOR US, COME ON.
F?
CAN'T THE MAN GET SOME PEACE?
THE MAN CAN GET PEACE WHEN HE TAKES CARE OF BUSINESS.
HE IS TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS.
I MEAN, IF TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS IS HAVING SEX,
PUTTING THE ROOF OVER SOMEBODY-- THAT'S NICE. THAT'S THE FUNDAMENTALS.
BUT A RELATIONSHIP IS A RELATIONSHIP, I DON'T CARE WHO'S IN IT.
IF YOU WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR WOMAN
AND YOU AIN'T DOING THINGS RIGHT--
YOU COULD COME HOME FROM WORK TIRED AND SHE SAYS SOMETHING--
I MEAN, TRUTHFULLY SOMETIMES A WOMAN
CAN, LIKE, WAIT FOR THINGS AND SOMETIMES--
YOU GOT A MAN? YOU GOT A MAN?
- IF YOU WANT TO ENTER A RELATIONSHIP-- - DO YOU HAVE A MAN?
- YES YES, AND HE'S STRONG. - IS HE HAPPY?
YES YES YES YES. HE'S HAPPY, HE'S STRONG.
WHERE IS HE AT? LET ME TALK TO HIM.
HE AIN'T HERE. I'M WITH MY GIRLS. WHY HE HERE?
I WANT TO TALK TO HIM. I WANT TO SEE IF HE'S HAPPY.
- BUT SERIOUSLY-- AND HE'S STRONG. - YOU TREAT HIM NICE?
WHEN WE ARGUE, WE TALK ABOUT IT.
YOU TREAT HIM NICE?
I TREAT HIM LIKE MOST BLACK WOMEN TREAT THEIR MEN-- GOOD.
WHY DO BLACK WOMEN HAVE THIS SPECIAL POSITION
WHERE THEY INTIMIDATE MEN?
'CAUSE WE ACTUALLY HAVE THE POWER.
I THINK WE HAVE THE POWER, THE KNOWLEDGE
AND, HMM, THE--
HOW CAN I SAY THIS?
LIKE, THE STRENGTH TO CARRY A COMMITMENT
IF WE WANTED TO AND ALLOW US
TO TALK TO THEM LIKE, YOU KNOW, THEY DESERVE TO BE TALKED TO.
I JUST THINK THAT A LOT OF BLACK MEN
DON'T UNDERSTAND WHERE A LOT OF BLACK WOMEN
TRY TO COME INTO THEIR LIFE
AND TRY TO CHANGE THEM. BUT WE DON'T TRY TO CHANGE THEM.
WE JUST TRY TO MAKE THEM BETTER FOR US.
AND THAT'S HOW I THINK
THAT WE MAKE THE BLACK MEN TRY TO BE STRONG.
AND I JUST THINK THAT WOMEN GOT A LOT TO GO FOR US.
YEAH--
'CAUSE WE ACTUALLY HAVE THE POWER.
I THINK WE HAVE THE POWER, THE KNOWLEDGE
AND, HMM, THE--
HOW CAN I SAY THIS?
LIKE, THE STRENGTH TO CARRY A COMMITMENT
IF WE WANTED TO AND ALLOW US
TO TALK TO THEM LIKE, YOU KNOW, THEY DESERVE TO BE TALKED TO.
I JUST THINK THAT A LOT OF BLACK MEN
DON'T UNDERSTAND WHERE A LOT OF BLACK WOMEN
TRY TO COME INTO THEIR LIFE
AND TRY TO CHANGE THEM. BUT WE DON'T TRY TO CHANGE THEM.
WE JUST TRY TO MAKE THEM BETTER FOR US.
AND THAT'S HOW I THINK
THAT WE MAKE THE BLACK MEN TRY TO BE STRONG.
AND I JUST THINK THAT WOMEN GOT A LOT TO GO FOR US.
YEAH--
OUR HURT--
OUR PAST RELATIONSHIPS, BECAUSE HURTING PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE.
AND UNFORTUNATELY WE-- AS BLACK WOMEN,
WE DON'T KNOW HOW TO LET THINGS GO.
WE JUST SIMMER, THINK ABOUT IT AND SIMMER.
AND THAT'S UNFORTUNATE, SOME OF US DON'T.
Alexander: AND THEN YOU ACT LIKE HER.
I DON'T WANT TO SAY ACT LIKE HER,
BUT WE JUST-- WE KIND OF GET AN ATTITUDE--
- LIKE HERS. - WHATEVER.
- YEAH, WE'RE KIND OF-- - I'M A QUEEN. I'M ROYALTY.
I WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE ROYALTY AT ALL TIMES.
- OKAY. - I MEAN, YOU KNOW--
I'M ROYALTY, SO-- MY THING IS WHY SHOULD I HAVE TO STOOP LOWER
- THAN WHAT MY EXPECTATIONS ARE? - Alexander: AND WHAT COUNTRY ARE YOU THE QUEEN OF?
BABY, I AM THE QUEEN OF TANYA'S COUNTRY, OKAY?
HELLO. ALL RIGHT.
AND IF YOU DON'T KNOW, GET INTO MY WORLD.
IT ALL STARTS OFF AS REAL PEACEFUL,
BUT AT A CERTAIN POINT, A MAN IS GONNA DO SOMETHING
- TO MAKE A WOMAN MAD. - Alexander: HE'S JUST GONNA?
YEAH. YEAH.
- UH-HUH. - YEAH, A MAN IS GONNA DO SOMETHING.
YOU HAVE A MAN RIGHT NOW, TANYA?
( women laugh )
I CAN'T EVEN TELL YOU MY BUSINESS LIKE THAT.
Alexander: OKAY, DO YOU HAVE A MAN?
- YES. - Alexander: SEE? NOW LOOK AT THAT.
SHE HAS A MAN. SHE DON'T.
NO NO, I NEVER SAID I DIDN'T. I ACTUALLY HAVE THREE.
BUT YOU'RE GONNA PUT MY BUSINESS OUT THERE LIKE THAT?
I HAVE THREE. SINCE YOU WANNA PUT MY BUSINESS OUT THERE LIKE THAT
- I HAVE THREE. - Alexander: WELL, YOU'RE STILL STANKY, TANYA.
- ( women laugh ) - Woman: THAT'S EVEN WORSE.
- YOU'RE JUST-- - I HAVE FRIENDS. I DON'T HAVE A MAN.
I'M MARRIED TO MYSELF RIGHT NOW. I'M GETTING ME TOGETHER.
AND THAT'S BEFORE I GO INTO AN ANGRY- BLACK-WOMAN RELATIONSHIP--
YES, WE AS WOMEN NEED TO GET OURSELVES TOGETHER,
AND THAT'S WHAT I'M CURRENTLY DOING.
Alexander: OKAY, TANYA HAS SPOKEN.
OKAY, CHICAGO. TANYA'S REPRESENTING FOR Y'ALL.
THAT'S THE WAY CHICAGO GIRLS ROLL.
THAT'S THE WAY WE ROLL. WE DON'T TAKE ANY TYPE OF MESS.
I SEE. I'M GOING BACK TO L.A. THEN.
PLEASE, BECAUSE WE WILL HURT YOU HERE IN CHICAGO.
AND WE ROLL DEEP,
SO DON'T HURT ANY OF OUR FRIENDS,
'CAUSE WE ALL COMING AFTER YOU-- THE WHOLE GIRL CREW.
- CUT YOU, HUH? - WE GONNA CUT YOU, ALL 10 OF US.
WE'LL COME AFTER YOU. I'D SHOW YOU PICTURES OF THEM, BUT I DON'T HAVE THEM.
I DON'T FEEL THAT WAY, NO.
I KNOW A LOT OF STRONG BLACK WOMEN THAT DON'T HAVE ANGER ISSUES.
WHAT DOES "STRONG BLACK WOMAN" MEAN? PLEASE EXPLAIN.
'CAUSE EVERY TIME I HEAR "STRONG BLACK WOMAN"
- I'M GETTING CHEWED OUT. - ( man laughs )
Alexander: WHAT DOES IT MEAN OTHER THAN
"I CAN GIVE YOU GRIEF AND YOU CAN'T SHUT ME UP.
I'M GONNA WEAR YOU DOWN UNTIL YOU JUST WANT TO HIT ME,
BUT I KNOW YOU AIN'T GONNA DO IT, 'CAUSE YOU'RE A WEAK PUNK"?
WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN THEY SAY "STRONG BLACK WOMAN"?
MY DEFINITION, OR WHAT I EXPERIENCE OR WHAT I KNOW--
A STRONG BLACK WOMAN IS SOMEONE THAT TAKES CARE OF HER BUSINESS.
Alexander: OKAY, I DON'T HAVE A PROBLEM
WITH YOUR DEFINITION OF "STRONG BLACK WOMAN."
HOW ABOUT THAT OTHER DEFINITION
WHERE THE WOMEN AREN'T DOING NOTHING BUT SAYING
"YOU CAN'T DEAL WITH A STRONG BLACK WOMAN LIKE ME"?
THEY'RE NOT STRONG.
IF THAT'S-- I MEAN, THEY'RE NOT STRONG.