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Understanding the other person and what they want, even if they don't say something. Kind
of like think, they might say that but they don't really
mean it. Tolerance
Yes I am very tolerant yes very tolerant. You've got to be light hearted as well, you
can't have a set view in your head of what a relationship
is, it's what you do with it. A sense of humour helps
Oh yes it does enormously, seeing the funny side of everything.
Yeah I just think you've got to make each other
laugh, and then your sorted, then your fine. Not having to worry about things really, you
know I think a lot of youngsters today, money plays a big
part. I belong to a very fortunate generation where you know, I was a member of a very good
company pension scheme and I had a job for life really and came out,
so that side of life is quite easy now. Patience, communication, talking, time apart.
Having wide social circles outside of your relationship and not always stuck together
doing the same things,
Being flexible, not being too attached, I think it's about being open and sensitive
to another persons feelings and wants and needs and sharing
in those whether you feel you need to or not. I think, compromise, and understanding, and
having a good time together as well, not taking life too
seriously I think. Compromise
Good Yeah that was a good one,
You need to learn to give up things when you are in a relationship, and think not just
about yourself, but think about your partner and his needs,
you need to loose your ego. I think it's just trust isn't it?
Absolutely. I think the secret is that time-honoured-well-worn
cliche about give and take. I think it's accepting the differences and
loving someone because of their differences and seeing thats what attracts
you to somebody, knowing that they are different and knowing their ideas aren't exactly the
same as yours. I think if you have been in a relationship
for a long time, there is always the problem of boredom with your partner,
whether that is *** or whether that's mental, so it's very important that you have enough
incommon to stimulate each other. It's good, there is no real secret, I would
say. As long as you are having fun, you are enjoying it, it's
going to work. No bloody idea, ask my husband.
There is no secret you just have to keep on going, and work on the relationship, and the
same problems come up over and over again, it's a normal
thing, you just have to work it out everytime again, there is
no magic bullet.