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Louis: PREVIOUSLY ON "90 DAY FIANCé"...
Alan: KIRLYAM'S FROM GOIâNIA, BRAZIL.
THEY DON'T HAVE RUNNING, HOT WATER.
WHEN I ARRIVED TO TULSA...
AZIZA APPLIED FOR A WORK VISA AND WAS DENIED.
WOULDN'T THAT BE ALMOST A RED FLAG?
WE EITHER GET MARRIED IN THOSE 90 DAYS
OR SHE'LL HAVE TO GO BACK TO RUSSIA.
THE JOKE WAS, "DON'T GO DOWN THERE
AND BRING A GIRL BACK HOME."
SURE ENOUGH, HE DOES.
Alan: AND COMING UP...
I'M WORRIED THAT KIRLYAM'S GONNA EXPERIENCE
A LOT OF CULTURE SHOCK.
YEAH, WE DO IT.
Russ: I AM CONCERNED HOW PAOLA IS GOING TO FIT IN.
Louis: HAVE YOU GUYS EVER HEARD OF THE PHRASE "MAIL-ORDER BRIDE"?
AS FAR AS I KNOW, SHE'S A STRANGER.
WE HAVE ONLY 90 DAYS TO GET MARRIED.
SHE LOOKS LIKE SHE DON'T LIKE MY FOOD.
NO, PLEASE DON'T THINK THAT.
ARE YOU SURE YOU'RE OKAY HERE?
YES.
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Russ: MY FIANCé PAOLA JUST FLEW IN FROM COLOMBIA,
AND TODAY'S A BIG DAY.
WE'RE MOVING INTO MY PARENTS' HOUSE
TO SAVE MONEY FOR THE WEDDING
RATHER THAN SPENDING MONEY ON RENT SOMEWHERE
FOR THE NEXT THREE MONTHS.
SO, THIS IS YOUR ROOM?
HEY.
OH. SO...THIS IS YOUR ROOM.
WELL, WHEN I SAW HIS ROOM, IT WAS CUTE,
BUT IT WAS NOT WHAT I WAS EXPECTING
FOR SOMEONE 25 YEARS OLD.
THE CLOSET.
I SAW THE CLOSET.
THE CLOSET'S A LITTLE MESSY, BUT IT'S BIG ENOUGH FOR YOU.
SO, WHENEVER I WAS GROWING UP,
AS A KID, MY PARENTS WOULD NEVER ALLOW GIRLS IN MY ROOM.
SO YOU'RE THE FIRST GIRL.
YEAH? SO, WE CAN JUST CLOSE THE DOOR, MAYBE?
[ BOTH LAUGH ]
I CAN BE THE FIRST ONE IN EVERYTHING?
THIS CAN JUST -- SHHH.
I'M VERY HAPPY THAT PAOLA'S IN MY ROOM,
BUT I NEED TO EXPLAIN TO HER
HOW MY PARENTS WANT US TO BE IN SEPARATE BEDROOMS.
THIS IS WHERE I WILL BE SLEEPING.
WHAT?
AND ME?
YOU'LL BE SLEEPING MY BROTHER'S ROOM.
THIS IS MY BROTHER'S ROOM WHERE YOU'LL BE STAYING.
HMM. [ Unenthusiastically ] YAY.
NO. WHY?
I DON'T WANT TO SLEEP IN SEPARATE ROOMS.
MY NAME'S LOUIS.
I'M 33 YEARS OLD AND I LIVE IN INDIANAPOLIS, INDIANA.
I WAS MARRIED BEFORE, WHEN I WAS 20.
MY EX-WIFE TONYA AND I HAVE JOINT CUSTODY OF TWO BOYS.
THE BOYS ARE MY WORLD.
AAAH!
I AM LOUIS. THIS IS --
I AM DONAVAN.
I AM 10.
I AM 6.
I MEAN 7!
WITHOUT HAVING THE TIME TO GO OUT TO NETWORK AND SOCIALIZE
AND DEDICATE THAT TIME TO FINDING SOMEONE TO BE WITH,
I JUST SAW AN AD FOR A FREE DATING SITE,
AND THEN I RAN ACROSS AYA'S PROFILE.
Hi!
Louis: AYA LIVES IN THE PHILIPPINES, SO, I SENT HER A MESSAGE
AND WE STARTED TALKING ON JANUARY 15th OF 2012.
BY MARCH 10th, I HAD FALLEN IN LOVE WITH HER.
HOW ARE YOU?
I'm good.
I CAN'T SEE YOU VERY GOOD.
Me either.
AYA AND I HAVE SPENT, PHYSICALLY, TWO WEEKS TOGETHER.
BUT I FEEL THAT SHE IS MY BEST FRIEND.
[ Laughs ]
I DID NOT GO THROUGH A MARRIAGE BROKER TO FIND AYA.
SHE'S NOT A MAIL-ORDER BRIDE, YOU KNOW.
I JUST MET HER ON A DATING SITE, I TALKED TO HER,
OUR RELATIONSHIP EVOLVED AND NOW WE'RE ENGAGED.
[ Laughs ]
SHE'S GONNA BE COMING OVER
ON WHAT IS CONSIDERED A K-1 VISA,
WHICH IS A FIANCé VISA.
WE'RE GIVEN 90 DAYS TO GET MARRIED.
IS THERE A LITTLE BIT OF WORRY? YES.
IF THE BOYS DON'T LIKE SOMEBODY I'M WITH,
THEN I CAN'T BE WITH THEM.
DAD?
COME HERE.
'CAUSE I GOT TO TALK TO YOU AND YOUR BROTHER.
SO, I WANTED TO TALK TO YOU GUYS AND FIND OUT
IF YOU HAD HEARD ANYTHING
FROM ANY OF YOUR CLASSMATES AT SCHOOL,
OR IF THEY'VE ASKED YOU ANY QUESTIONS
OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT ABOUT ME AND AYA.
HMM?
HAVE ANY OF YOUR FRIENDS ASKED YOU ANY QUESTIONS AT ALL?
OKAY.
HAVE YOU GUYS EVER HEARD OF THE PHRASE "MAIL-ORDER BRIDE"?
MNH-MNH.
IF YOU GUYS GET ANY WEIRD QUESTIONS,
OR IF ANYBODY SAYS ANYTHING THAT YOU THINK IS NEGATIVE,
ALL YOU HAVE TO TELL THEM IS THAT,
"MY DADDY'S GETTING MARRIED TO SOMEBODY THAT HE LOVES."
DON'T BE AFRAID TO TELL THEM SHE'S FROM THE PHILIPPINES
AND THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH IT.
OKAY? OKAY?
OKAY.
WE'LL TRY TO BE AS GOOD AS WE CAN FOR...
SAY SOMETHING!
Alan: KIRLYAM AND I JUST GOT BACK FROM BRAZIL,
AND SHE'S ONLY BEEN LIVING IN LOS ANGELES NOW FOR THREE DAYS.
SO, WE STILL HAVE A GOOD CHUNK OF THE 90 DAYS LEFT.
THAT'S WHAT HEATS THE WATER.
OHHH!
SHE STILL HAS TO GET ACCLIMATED MORE.
OKAY.
SHE'S STILL GOT THE LANGUAGE TO LEARN.
COOP?
CUP.
CUP.
WOW.
IN NORMAL CIRCUMSTANCES,
IF SOMEONE WAS ACCLIMATING TO A NEW CULTURE,
THEY'D WANT TO HAVE A NICE, SMOOTH TRANSITION.
BOWL.
BOWL.
BOWL.
THAT WON'T NECESSARILY BE THE CASE FOR KIRLYAM.
YOU WANT TO SEE WHAT'S IN THE FRIDGE?
NOTHING.
[ LAUGHS ]
WE'LL HAVE TO GO SHOPPING TODAY.
I'M WORRIED THAT KIRLYAM'S GONNA EXPERIENCE
A LOT OF CULTURE SHOCK.
SIMPLE AS THAT. I'M WORRIED.
NO, THIS IS JUICE.
[ LAUGHS ] OKAY.
KIRLYAM FROM A RELATIVELY SMALL COMMUNITY, GOIâNIA,
YOU KNOW, A LOT OF TECHNOLOGIES THAT WE HAVE,
THEY DON'T HAVE THERE.
SO, SHOPPING WILL BE A LITTLE BIT HARD
FOR KIRLYAM TO GET A HOLD OF IN THE BEGINNING.
YOU DON'T HAVE CANNED BEANS, HUH?
CANNED BEANS?
YEAH. BEANS IN CANS? NO?
NO?
WITH THIS, YOU DON'T HAVE TO MAKE YOUR OWN TOMATO SAUCE.
THIS? YOU JUST BUY IT, STIR IT IN.
[ SQUELCHES ] READY.
WOW!
LET'S GO TO A SELF SCAN.
WE SCAN IT.
YEAH, WE DO IT.
[ CHUCKLES ]
I NEVER SEE SOMETHING LIKE SELF CHECKOUT.
[ LAUGHS ]
[ SCANNER BEEPING ]
YOU TRY.
NO. NOT NOW. YOU.
NO.
OKAY. [ LAUGHS ]
IT'S JUST -- LOOK. IT'S JUST THAT. IT'S JUST THIS.
[ SCANNER BEEPS ]
AH, HA-HA!
SEE?
90 DAYS, IT'S NOT IDEAL FOR SOMEONE LIKE KIRLYAM
TO ADJUST TO A DIFFERENT PLACE, A DIFFERENT COUNTRY.
HOPEFULLY IT WON'T BE AN ISSUE.
THANK YOU VERY MUCH!
YOU'RE WELCOME!
[ LAUGHS ]
HERE'S OUR BEDROOM.
YAY!
WE HAVEN'T HAD SEX YET.
SO...
WHO LIKES TEQUILA?
Russ: I WANT PAOLA TO FEEL AT HOME AND A PART OF MY LIFE IN OKLAHOMA.
WE ARE HAVING BRUNCH WITH MY FRIENDS
SO SHE CAN GET TO KNOW EVERYONE BEFORE THE WEDDING.
RUSS DID A GOOD JOB. LET'S JUST GO WITH THAT.
[ LAUGHTER ]
PAOLA FITTING INTO MY HOME TOWN WILL BE A DIFFICULTY.
THE LATIN CULTURE IS A LITTLE MORE RISQUE,
BUT HERE IN OKLAHOMA, WE'RE A LITTLE MORE CONSERVATIVE.
HELLO, GUYS.
Paola: HI. HOLA.
AND HE SAY, "WE'RE GONNA HAVE A BRUNCH,"
OR, "WE'RE GOING TO BRUNCH."
AND I SAID, "I HOPE I CAN HANDLE IT."
THIS IS MY FIANCé PAOLA.
HOLA.
All: HOLA!
Jake: PAOLA.
JUDSON. NICE TO MEET YOU.
AND THEN YOU KNOW MY BROTHER AND TAYLOR.
YEAH, YEAH. [ LAUGHS ]
I KNOW HIM.
THANK YOU SO MUCH.
IT'S SO NICE TO MEET YOU, FINALLY.
YEAH, FINALLY.
"PA-OLA" OR "POW"?
PAO. [ Pow ] YEAH. CALL ME PAO.
OH, PISTOLS FIRING. POW! POW! POW!
POW! POW! POW!
[ LAUGHTER ]
I WAS REALLY NERVOUS ABOUT IT.
[ LAUGHS ] I LIKE IT.
GO LIKE THIS, AND...
POW! POW! POW!
THAT'S REALLY GOOD.
YOU'RE GONNA BE CRAZY?
[ BOTH LAUGH ]
WHAT DO YOU THINK SO FAR?
I WANT A GOOD TIME.
ALL THE GOOD THINGS AND A LOT OF ACTIVITIES
AND CRAZY PARTY AND -- WHO LIKES TEQUILA?
I KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE IN BOGOTá, HOW THEY PARTY.
YOU COULD GET BEER DELIVERED
AT 4:00 IN THE MORNING IF YOU WANTED.
HERE, THAT'S JUST LIKE A -- THAT'S A SIN, YOU KNOW?
Paola: I FEEL THAT THE PEOPLE ARE LOOKING AT ME.
LOOKING AT ME LIKE, "MNH-MNH. NO."
Russ: IN COLOMBIA, THEY STILL HAVE THAT MINDSET
OF PARTYING UNTIL 6:00, 7:00 IN THE MORNING.
OH, MAN.
IT'S DIFFICULT TO ME TO HAVE THAT CONNECTION WITH THEM,
BECAUSE IT'S A DIFFERENT CULTURE.
IT'S NOT THE SAME.
TO RUSS AND PAOLA.
CHEERS.
SALUDE.
SALUDE!
RIGHT NOW I'M HAPPY TO BE HERE,
BUT I DON'T KNOW IF IN THE FUTURE
I'M GONNA HAVE THE, "OH, MY GOD, I DON'T FIT IN HERE.
THIS IS NOT THE PLACE THAT I WANT TO LIVE."
I THINK IT'S NOT FAIR TO HAVE 90 DAYS.
IT'S A SHORT TIME, YOU KNOW?
YOU WANT TO DO A LOT OF THINGS, FIRST,
AND YOU WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH YOUR COUPLE,
BUT 90 DAYS, WHAT HAPPENS IF YOU SAY, "OH, MY GOD.
NO, THIS IS NOT WHAT I WANT"?
Mike: AZIZA AND I SPENT HER FIRST TWO DAYS VISITING NEW YORK CITY.
NOW IT'S TIME TO HEAD BACK TO CLEVELAND.
I'M REALLY EXCITED, BUT I'M ALSO KIND OF NERVOUS,
BECAUSE THIS IS A WHOLE NEW CHAPTER IN OUR LIVES,
AND I JUST WANT AZIZA TO COME BACK TO CLEVELAND
AND HAVE EVERYTHING BE PERFECT.
THE ONLY REASON THAT WE'RE GETTING MARRIED SO FAST
AND DOING EVERYTHING SO FAST IS THIS 90-DAY WINDOW.
IT WOULD BE MUCH EASIER
IF WE HAD TIME TO GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER.
AND A LOT LESS PRESSURE, BUT WE HAVE 90 DAYS
AND WE HAVE TO MAKE THE BEST OF IT.
I REALLY HOPE THAT AZIZA LIKES MY HOUSE,
BECAUSE IT'S KIND OF MY PRIDE AND JOY.
I PUT A LOT OF WORK IN HERE, FIGURING THAT, EVENTUALLY,
I COULD RAISE A FAMILY HERE.
I WAS THINKING OF THE FUTURE WHEN I BOUGHT IT.
WELCOME HOME, SWEETIE.
THANK YOU. [ CHUCKLES ]
[ DOOR CREAKS ]
HOW SWEET. DOGGY.
HEY, LUKEY. [ LAUGHS ]
OH, HE'S SO HUGE.
SAY HI TO YOUR NEW MOMMY.
COME ON IN.
Aziza: I WAS JUST THINKING ABOUT LIVING TOGETHER --
I'M REALLY EXCITED ABOUT THAT.
I WANT TO KNOW HOW IT FEELS LIKE TO BE WITH A PERSON,
LIKE, EVERY MINUTE.
Mike: [ LAUGHS ]
MY PARENTS ARE REALLY EXCITED TO SEE AZIZA.
I'M SURE THEY'RE NERVOUS
ABOUT MEETING AZIZA FOR THE FIRST TIME,
AND I THINK THEY HAVE HIGH HOPES.
THIS IS THE BASEMENT.
LAUNDRY ROOM, SO...
Aziza: WHY DO YOU KEEP YOUR CLOTHES HERE?
WELL, I WANTED TO MAKE ROOM FOR YOU IN THE CLOSET UPSTAIRS.
AWW, THAT'S VERY SWEET.
Aziza: I CAME TO A TOTALLY DIFFERENT WORLD.
I HAVE TO GET USED TO A LOT OF NEW THINGS.
WHOA.
WE JUST NEED TO BE PATIENT.
I FEEL LIKE IT'S WORTH IT. YEAH.
HERE'S OUR BEDROOM.
YAY!
WHERE WE'LL BE SLEEPING TONIGHT.
FINALLY.
HEY!
[ LAUGHS ]
WE HAVEN'T HAD SEX YET.
YEAH, IT'S JUST BECAUSE, PHYSICALLY, WE SPENT
ONLY, LIKE, 13 DAYS
AND THAT'S NOT HOW IT WORKS IN THE NORMAL RELATIONSHIPS.
[ LAUGHS ]
I'M SURE THAT WE PROBABLY WILL HAVE SEX SOON.
UM... [ CLEARS THROAT ]
SO... [ CLEARS THROAT ]
YOU FEEL AT HOME YET?
NOT REALLY.
HOW ABOUT NOW?
[ CHUCKLES ] YEAH.
TONIGHT IS THE NIGHT.
GOOD NIGHT, SWEETIE.
NOT FOR ANYTHING BUT SLEEPING.
FANCY -- I LIKE THAT WORD. [ LAUGHS ]
OF COURSE, SHE WENT TO THE MOST EXPENSIVE PAIR.
WHY DOES SHE WANT TO GET OUT OF THE PHILIPPINES SO BADLY?
IS SHE A MAIL-ORDER BRIDE?
I WAS MARRIED BEFORE, WHEN I WAS 20.
Louis: HEY, HOW YOU DOING?
GOOD.
DID YOU HAVE A GOOD TIME AT DADS?
GOOD.
MY EX-WIFE TONYA AND I, WE DO GET ALONG
AND WE DO HAVE THAT RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE OF THE BOYS.
I THINK DAD AND I NEED TO TALK FOR A MINUTE,
DO YOU GUYS WANT TO GO OUT BACK WITH WALLY?
TONYA'S GONNA BE A VERY HUGE PART OF AYA AND MY LIFE.
I'M GETTING READY TO GO, NEXT WEEK, TO FINALLY GET AYA.
WHATEVER DAY WE GET BACK, WE WILL HAVE 90 DAYS
TO STILL DECIDE IF WE WANT TO GET MARRIED,
AND IF WE DON'T GET MARRIED WITHIN THOSE 90 DAYS,
THEN SHE'S SUPPOSED TO HAVE TO GO BACK.
YOU SURE YOU WANT TO MARRY HER?
YES.
SO, HOW EXACTLY DID YOU MEET?
WE JUST -- WE MET ON AN ONLINE DATING SITE.
WHY DOES SHE WANT TO GET OUT OF THE PHILIPPINES SO BADLY?
SHE DIDN'T WANT TO LEAVE THE PHILIPPINES.
IF I DIDN'T HAVE THE BOYS, I WOULD BE MOVING THERE.
THEN WHY THE INTERNATIONAL DATING SITE?
[ SIGHS ]
UNFORTUNATELY, YOU HEAR -- AND EVEN AYA WILL TELL YOU,
THERE ARE GIRLS FROM THE PHILIPPINES ALL THE TIME
THAT ARE WITH GUYS FOR COMPLETELY THE WRONG REASONS.
TONYA DOESN'T WANT ME TO GET HURT.
ANYBODY THAT I'VE MENTIONED THIS SITUATION TO
FINDS IT HIGHLY UNUSUAL.
I REALLY TRY NOT TO GIVE THEM MUCH INFORMATION.
I JUST SAY, "YES, HE'S GETTING MARRIED."
"YES, SHE'S FROM THE PHILIPPINES."
ONE QUESTION I HAVE -- IS SHE A MAIL-ORDER BRIDE?
WHAT MAKES THIS DIFFERENT?
TO MY UNDERSTANDING, MAIL-ORDER BRIDES,
THEY ACTUALLY PAY A SITE,
OR WHAT WOULD BE CONSIDERED A MARRIAGE BROKER,
TO BASICALLY FIND THEM A GIRL.
WELL, THAT MAY BE THE TECHNICAL DEFINITION,
BUT I THINK WHAT PEOPLE ARE ASKING --
YOU'RE NOT LETTING ME FINISH.
HERE, IN THIS COUNTRY, WHEN PEOPLE SAY THAT,
IT'S KIND OF A BLANKET STATEMENT TO COVER, LIKE,
NOT ONLY DID YOU PAY FOR HER,
BUT IS SHE JUST COMING OVER HERE FOR THE VISA?
WELL, AND THAT'S DUE TO A LOT OF PEOPLE'S IGNORANCE
TO WHAT THE WHOLE THING ENTAILS.
DIRECT THEM TO ME.
Tonya: HE JUST GOT DEFENSIVE ABOUT IT.
REACTING THAT WAY TO ME ASKING THAT QUESTION,
THAT DID PUT A LITTLE DOUBT IN MY MIND.
DOES SHE HAVE ANY CHILDREN?
NO. SHE DOESN'T HAVE ANY KIDS.
OKAY. DOES SHE WANT CHILDREN?
SHE DOES WANT TO HAVE KIDS.
WE'RE VERY CAREFUL ABOUT THE BOYS AND WHO THEY STAY WITH.
I CAN COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND -- SHE DOESN'T KNOW AYA.
I WOULD BE WORRIED ABOUT THE BOYS STAYING ALONE
WITH SOMEBODY THAT I HADN'T MET.
BEFORE THE BOYS SPEND ANY TIME WITH HER,
I REALLY FEEL LIKE I NEED TO MEET HER,
BECAUSE AS FAR AS I KNOW, SHE'S A STRANGER.
NOTHING MATTERS MORE TO ME THAN MAKING SURE THOSE BOYS ARE OKAY.
I JUST HOPE THAT IT DOESN'T HAVE ILL EFFECTS ON MY CHILDREN.
IF SHE GETS HERE AND THE BOYS JUST ABSOLUTELY HATE HER
OR SHE'S NOT GOOD TO THE BOYS,
THEN I'M NOT JUST GONNA MARRY HER JUST BECAUSE.
MAYBE 10 MINUTES.
Russ: TODAY, I'M TAKING PAOLA TO GO SHOPPING FOR COWGIRL BOOTS,
JUST TO KIND OF GIVE HER THAT OKIE FEEL,
'CAUSE SHE WANTED TO FIT IN.
THIS EXPENSIVE, THAT BOOTS?
YEAH. YES, THEY CAN BE EXPENSIVE.
REALLY?
NORMALLY THEY COST OVER $100.
MAYBE $150 IS AN AVERAGE,
BUT YOU CAN GET THEM EVEN MORE EXPENSIVE
DEPENDING ON THE TYPE OF MATERIAL THAT IT'S MADE OUT OF.
THANK YOU.
ALL OF OUR CROWS ARE OVER HERE ON THE WALL.
THEY'RE OUR FANCIER BOOTS.
YEAH.
[ LAUGHS ]
YOU DON'T LIKE THOSE?
NO.
HOW ABOUT THESE? NO, THIS IS IT.
AMERICAN FLAG ONES? OH, MY GOD.
I DON'T KNOW.
NO.
THAT'S AWESOME.
[ LAUGHS ] NO WAY. NO.
MNH-MNH.
YOU LIKE THE PINK ONES.
THE PINK ONES? IMAGINE THAT.
YEAH.
NOW, I SET A LIMIT IN MY HEAD, BUT OF COURSE,
SHE WENT TO THE MOST EXPENSIVE PAIR THAT SHE COULD FIND.
Paola: HOW DO YOU THINK?
Russ: I LIKE THEM.
I LIKE IT, TOO.
$289.
$289.
I DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU -- THIS IS YOUR FAULT.
YOU WANT ME TO WEAR THOSE BOOTS. I DON'T KNOW.
IT'S NOT BECAUSE I CHOOSE THE MOST EXPENSIVE,
IT'S JUST BECAUSE...
I BELIEVE.
JUST BECAUSE I LOVE YOU,
WE'RE GONNA GET YOU STARTED WITH SOME COWGIRL BOOTS.
YEAH. I LIKE IT A LOT.
YOU WANT TO GET A WHOLE OUTFIT, HUH?
UH-HUH.
FROM SHORTS, SHE WANTED A SHIRT, A BELT,
IT JUST KIND OF WENT FROM ONE THING TO ANOTHER.
SHE'S GONNA EMPTY MY WALLET IF SHE'S NOT CAREFUL.
[ LAUGHS ]
YOU LOOK LIKE A COWGIRL.
YOU MIGHT AS WELL.
[ LAUGHING ]
MAYBE I CAN TAKE THIS FOR TONIGHT, JUST, "OH! MOVE!"
[ SMACKS ] OH, YEAH. I LIKE IT.
THIS IS A LOT OF PRESSURE, BECAUSE HERE...
I DON'T KNOW THE WAY THEY DANCE.
HOW ARE YOU?
WHEN KIRLYAM STAYS AT MY PARENTS' HOUSE,
THERE WILL BE A LANGUAGE BARRIER.
IT JUST MAKES ME NERVOUS.
OH...
Alan: THIS ALL YOU NEED?
IT'S ALL I NEED.
OH!
[ Chuckling ] YEAH.
KIRLYAM IS PACKING UP TO STAY AT MY PARENTS' HOUSE.
YOUR PAJAMAS.
AND PAJAMAS.
I HAPPEN TO BE A MORMON.
WE ABSTAIN FROM HAVING SEX BEFORE GETTING MARRIED,
AND IT'S HARD TO DO.
SO, WE HAD KENT CHAPERONING US,
BUT BECAUSE OF HIS SCHEDULE, HE CAN'T.
YEAH -- NO.
OH, YOU NEED YOUR HAIR?
[ LAUGHS ]
LIKE THIS?
NO!
TEMPTATION IS THERE.
A MOMENTARY LAPSE OF JUDGMENT, AND YOU REGRET IT.
SO, NOW KIRLYAM HAS TO STAY WITH MY PARENTS.
YOU KNOW, RELAX. MY PARENTS ARE YOUR PARENTS NOW.
I KNOW.
[ INDISTINCT CONVERSATIONS ]
MY PARENTS MET KIRLYAM AT THE L.A. AIRPORT.
THEY'RE VERY SUPPORTIVE OF KIRLYAM COMING OVER HERE.
I'M EXCITED FOR THEM TO GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER.
HELLO.
HELLO. WELCOME TO THE HOUSE.
HI. THANK YOU.
HEY, SWEETIE.
[ LAUGHS ] HOW ARE YOU?
HELLO, HELLO. [ CHUCKLES ]
WELCOME. HOW YOU BEEN DOING?
[ SPEAKING PORTUGUESE ] I'M FINE.
WHEN WE FIRST FOUND OUT
THAT ALAN WAS DATING SOMEONE IN BRAZIL,
WE DIDN'T BELIEVE HIM.
YEAH.
GOOD. EXCELLENT.
BUT THE FIRST TIME HE LET US OVER VIDEO CHAT MEET HER,
I THINK, IS WHEN WE WENT, "WOW!
"THIS IS FOR REAL, AND SHE'S BEAUTIFUL.
WHAT DOES SHE SEE IN ALAN?"
NO.
A LOT OF THINGS HAVE COME TO MY MIND.
OKAY.
SO, OF THINGS THAT HAVE TO DO WITH THE WEDDING.
AND IT JUST MAKES ME NERVOUS.
AY.
[ SPEAKING PORTUGUESE ]
WHEN KIRLYAM STAYS AT MY PARENTS' HOUSE,
THERE WILL BE A LANGUAGE BARRIER.
MY MOM AND MY DAD DO NOT SPEAK A LICK OF PORTUGUESE.
[ SPEAKING PORTUGUESE ]
[ LAUGHS ]
YES.
IT'S GONNA BE AWKWARD AT FIRST. YOU KNOW?
GOODBYE, ALAN!
ARE YOU SURE YOU'RE OKAY HERE?
YES.
YOU ARE SURE? OKAY.
OKAY, REALLY. BYE.
[ LAUGHS ]
WE WOULD BE OKAY WITHOUT MY PARENTS CHAPERONING US,
BUT WE'D RATHER NOT RISK IT.
WE'RE FULLY COMMITTED TO SEEING THIS OUT THROUGH THE END,
AND SO WE'LL DO WHATEVER NECESSARY TO MAKE SURE
THAT WE ACTUALLY DO SEE IT ALL THE WAY TO THE END.
I'M BACK.
YOU OKAY?
I'M FINE. [ CHUCKLES ] THANK YOU.
HAVE TO SAY GOODBYE AGAIN.
AGAIN.
Alan: I FEEL A LITTLE BIT NERVOUS
LEAVING KIRLYAM HERE AT MY PARENTS' HOUSE.
COMPLETELY NEW PLACE, BUT IT'S A GOOD OPPORTUNITY,
BONDING EXPERIENCE FOR KIRLYAM AND MY PARENTS.
PILLOW.
OH, GOOD. THANK YOU.
ANYTHING ELSE?
NO, I'M FINE. I'M REALLY FINE. THANK YOU.
I PROMISE, REALLY.
OUR HOUSE IS YOUR HOUSE.
YES.
IN SPANISH, IT'D BE MI CASA ES SU CASA.
SU CASA, YEAH. [ LAUGHS ]
ALL RIGHT. GOOD NIGHT.
BYE. GOOD NIGHT.
[ GEESE HONKING ]
HERE, I DON'T KNOW THE WAY THEY DANCE.
Paola: WELL, IN COLUMBIA, THE WAY WE WE DANCE IS...
YOU DON'T NEED TO DO THE SAME STEP EVERY TIME
BECAUSE EACH STEP IS COMPLETELY DIFFERENT.
CAN BE ROMANTIC, CAN BE MOVING, CAN BE FAST, CAN BE SLOW.
AND WITH A LINE DANCE, IT'S JUST DO THE SAME,
WHAT THE OTHER PEOPLE ARE DOING.
I REALLY LIKE IT, BUT IT'S HARD.
WHOO! [ LAUGHS ]
Russ: OHH!
GO FOR IT!
SHE HAD NO IDEA WHAT SHE WAS GETTING INTO.
NO, I NEVER DID THAT BEFORE.
AND IT WAS AWESOME.
[ LAUGHS ]
WHOO!
WHOO-HOO!
HOLD ON! HOLD ON!
[ BOTH CHEERING ]
PISTOLS FIRING! TAS, TAS, TAS!
THE GUY WAS PLAYING EASY ON HER.
SHUT UP.
[ LAUGHS ]
I REALLY MISS MY FAMILY.
ESPECIALLY MY MOTHER.
I BELIEVE THAT IT IS WORTH IT TO GIVE UP EVERYTHING
TO COME AND BE WITH LOUIS.
Alan: KIRLYAM STAYING OVER AT MY FOLK'S PLACE
MAKES ME A LITTLE BIT WORRIED.
THEY HAVE TO GO TO WORK.
SHE'S GONNA BE THERE ALL ALONE.
KNOCK KNOCK. GOOD MORNING.
GOOD MORNING.
Kirlyam: GOOD MORNING.
WELCOME.
[ CHUCKLES ] HOW'D YOU DO?
MM, FINE. FINE.
PARENTS, FOR ME, REALLY, REALLY NICE PEOPLE.
I'M SO SORRY THAT WE HAVE TO WAKE YOU UP SO EARLY.
NO. NO PROBLEM, REALLY.
WELL, WE'VE GOT TO GO TO WORK.
OKAY.
WHEN I STAY IN BRAZIL...
ALL RIGHT. WE'LL CALL.
OKAY.
[ CHUCKLES ]
I...
ESPECIALLY MY MOTHER.
♪ LADY IN PINK, YOU DON'T HAVE TO CRY ♪
♪ DON'T YOU LET GO ♪
IT'S HARD.
[ Beep ]
Woman over P.A.: LADIES AND GENTLEMEN,
ALL SEAT BELTS MUST BE FASTENED,
ALL SEAT BACKS AND TRAY TABLES
DO NEED TO BE IN THEIR UPRIGHT POSITION.
MY FIANCéE, AYA, IS FROM THE PHILIPPINES.
I'M GOING BACK TO GET HER
TO BRING HER BACK TO THE UNITED STATES.
I BELIEVE AYA IS THE ONE FOR ME.
IF FOR SOME GOD-AWFUL REASON IT DOESN'T WORK OUT FOR US
AND I'M NOT WITH HER, I PROBABLY WON'T BE WITH ANYBODY ELSE.
[ INDISTINCT CONVERSATIONS ]
I HONESTLY BELIEVE THAT [Voice breaking]
THERE IS ONE PERSON OUT THERE, AND I'M 100% SURE
THAT SHE IS THE PERSON THAT I WAS SUPPOSED TO BE WITH.
AT FIRST, I DIDN'T SEE HER.
HEY, BABE.
AND THEN I SAW HER, AND IT WAS REALLY GREAT.
IT WAS JUST LIKE IT WAS SUPPOSED TO BE LIKE THAT.
OH.
HE'S HERE.
MY NAME IS AYA RAMONDO.
I'M 30 YEARS OLD, AND I'M FROM THE PHILIPPINES.
[ LAUGHS ] HI.
I LIVE AT HOME WITH MY FAMILY ALMOST ALL MY LIFE.
IT FEELS SAD MOVING AWAY FROM HOME,
BUT LOUIS IS DIFFERENT COMPARED TO ANY OTHER GUY
THAT I'VE DATED IN THE PHILIPPINES.
[ LAUGHS ]
HE'S JUST NATURAL.
I MEAN, I'M JUST VERY COMFORTABLE
WITH HIM TALKING ABOUT ANYTHING.
AND THAT MEANS A LOT TO ME.
[ DOG BARKING ]
OKAY.
IT FEELS SAD NOT BEING WITH MY GRANDMOTHER,
BECAUSE I AM JUST VERY ATTACHED TO HER.
I THINK WHOEVER KNOWS AND UNDERSTANDS ME BETTER
IS MY GRANDMOTHER.
[ SPEAKING NATIVE LANGUAGE ]
Louis: I WILL.
[ DOGS BARKING ]
Aya: I BELIEVE THAT IT IS WORTH IT
TO GIVE UP EVERYTHING TO COME AND BE WITH LOUIS.
IF ONLY LOUIS DOESN'T HAVE THE BOYS, WE COULD LIVE IN P.I.
BUT THE BOYS ARE STILL YOUNG,
AND I DON'T WANT HIM TO CHOOSE BETWEEN ME AND THE BOYS.
I HAVE TO MEET, LIKE, THE WHOLE FAMILY.
SHE LOOKS LIKE SHE DON'T LIKE MY FOOD.
NO, PLEASE. DON'T THINK THAT.
Russ: MY PARENTS ARE DIRECTLY UNDERNEATH MY BEDROOM,
BUT IT'S NOT EASY TO TELL HER NO.
[ LAUGHS ]
WELL...
HEY. PRESENTS.
OH, I GOT TO CARRY THOSE, TOO.
DUH.
[ CHUCKLES ]
IS THERE ANYTHING FRAGILE IN HERE?
MAYBE.
IF I GET EXCITED.
[ LAUGHS ]
WELCOME TO THE PARENTS' HOUSE.
[ CAR BEEPS ]
[ LAUGHS ]
HELLO.
HI.
NICE TO MEET YOU.
MOM, DAD, THIS IS AZIZA. AMY.
HI.
THANK YOU.
HI.
HOW ARE YOU?
I'M GOOD. THANK YOU. HI.
UH, THIS IS SO NICE.
Mike: HI, AMY.
HEY, EASY, BUDDY.
[ LAUGHS ]
[ CLEARS THROAT ]
SO, YOU GUYS HUNGRY?
I'M STARVING.
AZIZA PROBABLY ALREADY ATE TODAY. DID YOU EAT?
NO, ACTUALLY. OH, THANK YOU.
[ LAUGHTER ]
DID SHE BITE YOU?
SO, SWEETIE, DO YOU WANT A BUN
ARE YOU GONNA EAT A HAMBURGER, OR...?
BREAD.
NO. NO, THANKS.
CHICKEN?
YEAH.
CHICKEN, HAMBURGER, WHATEVER YOU WANT.
I'M GOOD. DON'T WORRY ABOUT ME.
YOU NEED TO EAT, 'CAUSE YOU HAVE TO GET FAT
LIKE ALL THE REST OF THE AMERICAN WOMEN.
[ LAUGHTER ]
NO, THANK YOU.
LOOK, THERE'S FORKS.
OKAY.
THANK YOU.
YEAH, YOU WANT SOME CHICKEN?
YOU GIVE ME THIS THING.
THERE'S KNIVES. WE NEED ANYTHING ELSE? CORN?
NO, THANK YOU. I'M GOOD, REALLY.
DON'T WORRY ABOUT ME. [ CHUCKLES ]
I KNOW YOU GUYS ARE SO BUSY RUNNING AROUND.
I WANT TO MAKE SURE YOU EAT.
AZIZA'S TOLD ME A MILLION TIMES
THAT SHE DOESN'T LIKE GOING OUT TO EAT.
SHE DOESN'T LIKE WHEN PEOPLE WATCH HER EAT.
SHE HAS NO PROBLEM WITH ME SEEING HER EAT,
IT'S JUST MOSTLY STRANGERS
OR PEOPLE SHE DOESN'T KNOW WELL, I GUESS.
JUST SOME KIND OF LITTLE PHOBIA.
ALL RIGHT.
[ DOG APPROACHES ]
SHE LOOKS LIKE SHE DON'T LIKE MY FOOD.
NO, PLEASE. DON'T THINK THAT.
I'M JUST...
Kerry: I DON'T KNOW WHAT THE CUSTOM IS IN RUSSIA
IF THEY WOULD PREPARE A BIG MEAL AND THEN SOMEBODY CAME IN,
JUST SAT THERE, AND WOULDN'T EAT ANYTHING.
I DON'T KNOW.
ANYWHERE THAT I'VE EVER BEEN,
EVEN IF I DON'T LIKE WHAT SOMEBODY MADE
OR I WASN'T HUNGRY, I WOULD TAKE SOMETHING.
SO, YEAH.
I'M NOT DOING IT ON PURPOSE.
IT'S NOT -- I DON'T KNOW.
IT'S JUST SOMETHING I CAN'T CONTROL.
THERE'S A LOT OF PREPARING FOOD, AND THEN SHE DIDN'T EAT.
SO, I FELT UNCOMFORTABLE ALL OF US EATING,
AND SHE WASN'T EATING.
IT MADE ME UNCOMFORTABLE.
TALK.
EH, BUT I AIN'T SAYING IT.
WHY? SAY IT.
[ LAUGHS ]
NO. EVERYTHING'S GOOD.
EVERYTHING COULDN'T BE BETTER.
[ LAUGHS ]
[ CRICKETS CHIRPING ]
SHH.
Paola: THIS SITUATION, LIVING WITH HIS PARENTS,
I'M SO SORRY, IT'S DIFFICULT.
Russ: ACCORDING TO MY PARENTS' REQUEST,
WE NEED TO BE IN SEPARATE ROOMS.
THE SITUATION IS NOT EASY,
BUT I WANTED TO RESPECT MY PARENTS' WISHES.
[ CRICKETS CHIRPING ]
THERE, BEHOLD, WAS PAOLA SNEAKING IN
ASKING FOR...A LITTLE LOVE.
MY PARENTS ARE DIRECTLY UNDERNEATH MY BEDROOM,
BUT IT'S NOT EASY TO TELL HER NO.
TRUST ME.
OH.
WE NEED TO GET OUR OWN PLACE.
GOOD MORNING.
OKAY.
GOOD IDEA.
40, 50?
AZIZA DOESN'T SEEM LIKE SHE'S GETTING TOO EXCITED
ABOUT A LOT OF THINGS IN THE WEDDING.
SOMETIMES I WORRY THAT SHE DOESN'T WANT TO DO THIS.
SO, WHAT ARE YOU THINKING?
LOOKS LIKE A CAFETERIA OR SOMETHING.
Woman: IT WOULD BE SO EASY FOR YOU TO MAKE IT OUT HERE
AS A MODEL, I THINK.
WOW!
SHE THINKS YOU COULD BE A MODEL?
I DON'T WANT KIRLYAM CAUGHT UP IN THAT LIFESTYLE.
AYA! YOUR FEET STINK.
THE BOYS, THE EX-WIFE, A NEW COUNTRY, AND MY WEDDING.
THIS IS ALL TOO MUCH.
I DON'T KNOW IF I CAN MAKE IT IN 90 DAYS.