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My name is Barbara Esses and I do events for a living. I'm Ruthie Hecht; I'm an event planner
and I work with and for my mother. We're going to teach you the do's and don'ts for the perfect
wedding.
When picking your wedding party, remember that everybody you've ever met does not need
to walk down your aisle. Whittle it down to your lifelong friends, and then whittle it
down again. Bridesmaids are there to help you on the day of your wedding going to the
bathroom, fixing your makeup, not worrying that they're wearing a fuchsia dress and their
lipstick is coming off. They'll also be crucial during the engagement and planning the wedding
shower and any other events. Make sure they're fun and understand you and aren't going to
completely embarrass you.
Just because you were a bridesmaid in somebody else's wedding doesn't mean they have to be
one in yours. It's a great rule of thumb to eliminate all married women and then you can
really keep the numbers down. The truth is that bridesmaids are a really nice thing to
have, but they are titles. So if you feel like there is conflict between two of them,
have everyone be a bridesmaid - no need to assign four maids of honor. There are no rules
about groomsmen versus bridesmaids and how many you have to have. If you have one best
friend and your husband has four, that's perfectly fine. The maid of honor can walk down the
aisle alone and the men can walk down either alone or as couples.