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Rollo Tomassi "The Rational Male" excerpt for the nice guy that wants a relationship:
And this of course is met with either resistance or shame from her.
What serves a Man better is to make incremental changes in himself that she will perceive
as attractive to other women.
Women want to be with Men who other women want to ***, and other men want to be.
This cuts both ways.
The more empowered he becomes, the better physical shape he attains, the more professional
achievements he gathers, the more social proof and status he accrues, the more valuable he
makes himself, the more anxiety is produced -- and this is the same old familiar competition
anxiety a woman's hindbrain can't argue with.
One of the first things I tell men trapped in a 'her-frame' relationship is to get to
the gym, train hard, look better.
This has two effects; first it makes her physical interest in *** increase, and second it
fires up that imagination.
"Why is he doing this? He's really looking better these days, I see it, other women must
see it too.
Maybe I need to start working out? Gosh those girls at the gym look really good." She can't
argue with a healthy desire to look better, feel better, and be concerned with your health.
Getting in better shape is the easiest, most immediate change you can effect.
You may have little influence in getting a promotion at work, but you can change your
body habits right now.
Women, being the calculating gender, know all too well to hit the gym months prior to
a break up -- she's not getting in shape for you, she's getting ready to hit the ground
running with the next guy she'll be ***.
They know this, so your manifesting the same behavior 'caffeinates the hamster' since it
hits home for them.
*** is Not Authority Don't accept that her sexuality is the authority of the relationship.
The better you make yourself the more authority you command, the more you abdicate to her
the less authority (and respect) you command.
Women need to be told "NO", in fact they want you to tell them "NO", especially in light
of the 800 pound gorilla in the room -- her *** agency.
When a woman controls the LTR frame with her ***, it's always going to color your dealings
with her.
This is no way to go through life.
It becomes this ever-present, unspoken understanding that she can ultimately play the *** card
and you'll comply. SCRIPT WRITTEN BY ROLLO TOMASSI IN "THE RATIONAL
MALE"