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Heya playas, is there a girl in your life you just can't seem to get over? Maybe you've
always liked her or you dated her one time and now she has a boyfriend or she's moved
away. Well, this video is going to teach you how to get the girl that's slipped away. Aaron
Carter, I'm talking to you. This is The Josh Speaks. You're watching The Josh Speaks. Normally
I talk about things that you guys have brought up but today I read an article about how Aaron
Carter is willing to stop at nothing to get back his one true love, Hilary Duff. Ah, Hilary
Duff. Not too long ago she decided to get married and start her own family. But now
that she's divorced, I can bet Aaron Carter is thinking "Maybe I have a chance again?".
This is how a lot of guys think. The girl they like ends up getting a boyfriend and
they're left to answer the question, do I wait it out until the relationship ends or
do I move on? Let's say you're like Aaron Carter and you've chosen to wait it out. Waiting
it out doesn't mean you're ending your life or not talking to other girls, it means you're
waiting for the possibility that you might have a shot with her. And while that romantic
vision of it all sounds great, you're missing one key part. You're forgetting the fact that
the romance here is one sided. There's no guarantee that once she ends her relationship
she's gonna feel the same about you that you do about her. You're riding on the fumes of
hope, dangerous, dangerous hope. Hope that is not hopeless. In order to make this potentially
work, you're gonna need to restructure how you interact with her. Talking to her about
her life and her problems is a fast tracked way to get friend zoned. If she notices that
she can open up to you without having to be ***, then she's gonna truly value your
friendship which goes against what you're trying to accomplish. And yet completely cutting
her off holds the risk of her forgetting about you. If you aren't a presence in her life,
how's she going to remember how great of a guy you are? Wait a minute, that's it! You
don't want her to remember. I know it sounds counter-intuitive, but think of it like this.
When you connect with her again, you're both going to be in different places of your life.
Do you want her to remember the friend zoned lovable loser that she didn't want to give
a chance to in the past or the new, improved, attractive version of you? It's not until
you truly separate from someone that you begin to see all the differences about them. So
what if you're like Aaron Carter where you once dated the girl and feelings did exist
but now so much time has passed that they've kind of dwindled away. Well, Aaron said it
best, you need to work on improving yourself. This mindset has to develop where you want
to improve yourself for yourself. Not for a girl, not for a chance with a girl and not
even for the idea of a chance with a girl. Because wanting to change who you are for
someone else is still riding on the principle of uncertainty. No matter what you do or what
you change, you can't guarantee that they'll like you. What do you guys think though, have
you ever had a girl slip away from you? Leave your comments and stories down below and we'll
talk about it. So to Aaron Carter and to anyone else who wants to get with the girl that slipped
away, take this time to improve who you are. I know those feelings hurt because I've felt
them myself. But you need to allow yourself to get over the girl. Because it's only when
you let her go that you'll meet new girls, make new friends, try new things. That way
when you do cross paths again in the future, she can meet that new self, your best self,
and that is the guy you want her to give a chance to. As always guys, love and peace.
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The link will be in the description below. And one more thing guys, I really do want
to help Aaron Carter out because I've been in that situation before. So what I need you
to do is to help tweet this video out. We need to get him to see it.