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Honey, what were you thinking? You said you were going to come in on friday
to do a couple of changes, but the room is
so chaotic
to me.
And I did ask you and invited you come
and you said "No," that was fine for you if I went ahead
and redid the room. Right,
but you didn't
tell me what the changes were and
why you were going to change the things the way you did. conversations export
And that conversation would've been so useful to me to know what your thought was behind the choice of materials and why you made the changes.
That was intense. These situations happen all the time and make me a little uneasy.
And if you don't deal with them right away, they just pile up.
I really like that they took it on.
That takes courage. Let's listen to Arlay and her team talk about the conflict,
trust, and the importance of teamwork. I think the basis of all our
work
is strong because of our strong team. And i think our team is really based on trust.
I think we've developed this trust through team meetings
and getting to know each other
It's really been helpful to me and to discuss how we like to receive feedback
and when are good times to receive the feedback. I know it's not always great
for us to receive feedback on the floor, so it's better right after class. I know, for myself, I don't like
to receive feedback before class.
So we're getting to really know each other.
And when I think about trust,
part of that trust is that
it's okay for us to to have disagreements.
Like in any relationship, disagreements are part of life.
And sometimes most of my best learning comes out of disagreement, and
this team is very open to know that, rather than me being passive aggressive
around Cory about sand under the climbing structure,
I know I can come to Cory and say, "Hey, what happened?" This morning there was
some sand under the climbing structure. How come you didn't sweep?" And Cory could say, "I had a
had a late pick-up yesterday." And that
gives me an idea that she didn't do it on purpose. And so part of
this team is that we assume the best of everyone.
But this is
life and it gets in the way sometimes, and we're not--
I guess we give each other the same kind of respect that we give to kind of respect that week if the
children. The children don't break things because they want to break them. Children don't that children done don't break things because they want of a children
bite each other because they want to buy each other. There's an impulse.
And we put that practice into our own relationships.
It's okay to have struggles and I think for us teachers we somehow in this
profession we have decided that it's not okay to struggle. That it's not
okay
to not be perfect and positive all the time.
And I think that even
a good model for families to say, you know, I don't have the answer for this. I need to go and check in with my team about it
because I don't know how I'm feeling about this. And what
a great model for friends to go, "Yeah, I don't know how to do that either."
And you know the teachers were supposed to know everything.
And for him to hear, well, if she doesn't know, they don't know their own business here. And I'm not that bad after all. And...
We all have different strengths
and we all have different things
we're working on and if we
put that all together we're so much stronger. This team is awesome. If I worked
I might feel safe enough to take risks
like doing more cooking with my toddlers. But the teamwork in my room isn't very
strong so I'm afraid to try new things.Think about the times when your team was
not cohesive or able to support your creativity and risk taking.
What makes a team work well?
What have you learned about managing conflict on a team?
How do children and families benefit from effective teamwork
By the way in the Administration and Supervision competency area
you can listen to Arlay talk about her journey with a new job and program
standards.
The risks she describes are only possible because
she's established a strong and trusting team.