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bjbj Episode 20 Holistic Healing with Arielle Essex [0:00:11] Melanie: So welcome everyone
to another episode of Wired for Success TV. Today we ve got Arielle Essex with us. Now
most of us would go into an absolute tailspin at the thought of being diagnosed with a brain
tumor and probably we would be looking for the fastest way to have it removed or at least
be medically treated. However, when this diagnosis was given to Arielle, she took a deep breath
and decided that as a complementary health practitioner, she would begin her own process
of inner inquiry. That decision took her into a very interesting territory where she was
forced to look at her health and in fact her life from a totally different perspective.
She really had to walk her talk. Her latest book Practical Miracles: Choices that Heal
and Build Resilience shares Arielle s beliefs that we are more than just a physical body,
that we have incredible inner resources and if we know the steps to tap into, then any
condition can be healed. Today Arielle shares how she went on to cure herself of that brain
tumor, how she had to go through a shift in thinking to really heal and the message the
tumor had for her. So welcome Arielle. Arielle: Thank you. Melanie: It s an honor to have
you here with us today. Arielle: Well, I m honored to be here with you. Thank you for
having me. Melanie: So Arielle, we would love you to tell us exactly what was going on in
your life when this tumor was diagnosed. Arielle: Well, I was exactly 39 when my tumor was diagnosed
and I was divorced and the reason I had gotten divorced was I really wanted a family. So
at 39, I had fallen in love with the man of my dreams and I thought we were about to get
married and embark on a whole new life and I was right at that borderline age, 39, wanting
a baby and everything was looking like it was going to turn out right. But even happy
events can be quite stressful and the whole realm of relationships in my life had always
been quite stressful. It was at that point out of the blue I received this diagnosis
of one centimeter prolactinoma. It was a shock. It was a huge shock and it felt like it came
out of nowhere. In fact, it had been there for quite some time. I just didn t know it
was there and it probably had been related to a previous ovarian cyst that I had had
years before. But having put two and two together, suddenly I was faced with dealing with Melanie:
So I want to interrupt it here. So you re saying that there had been indications which
you had been overlooking. Arielle: Yes, I had an ovarian cyst which also resolved without
any kind of medical intervention. I was about to have the operation but at that time, this
was about four, five years earlier, I went to see this amazing shaman and the cyst disappeared.
So I just assumed everything would resolve and everything would be fine and forgot all
about it until this new diagnosis occurred by sheer fluke. Beryl: So why did you think
there was a connection? Arielle: Well, prolactinomas have to do with secreting the lactation hormone
prolactin which is obviously for making milk for babies. Ovarian cysts are also on the
same circuitry in the body. The ovaries make the babies, the eggs for the babies. So it
s all on the same circuit with the thyroid and some of the other glands as well. So as
an osteopath and naturopath, I was well-aware of what the connections might be and also
because I was in complementary medicine. My first instinct was well, I want to heal this
naturally but I also knew enough to go to the medical libraries and research everything
I could about my particular tumor. Here s where there was a very interesting insight.
My particular tumor is known to be related to stress. I thought that s really odd because
here I was happier than I ve ever been and I didn t really have what I called a highly
stressful life. I had stress in only one realm relationships. Melanie: I was just going to
say you gave a hint before that. Relationships could be stressful. OK. So using your experience,
before we talk about that a bit more, could you for the audience just give a description
of the relationship between the stress and illness and the importance of releasing that
stress? Arielle: Sure. It s now pretty much an established fact that almost 95 percent
of illnesses are caused by stress and it s the type of stress that confuses people because
of course if you ask anybody, they always say, Yeah, I m stressed. I m stressed. But
there s good stress and there s negative stress. There are conscious levels of stress and then
there are unconscious levels of stress. Now good stress is the stress of being excited,
motivated. We want a little bit of stress in life because we don t like to be bored
but if you have a little bit too much stress, it kind of goes over a threshold and then
you start to feel tired. That s the first thing you notice. You re tired all the time
and then it goes into exhaustion and you will even feel slightly burned out. You start developing
symptoms because of the tiredness and then you actually develop a full blown disease.
Now that can all happen rather unconsciously because we re not paying attention of what
s happening in our body. When we feel stressed, we deal with a certain amount of it consciously
but a lot of it gets pushed down into our body. When we re stressed, it stimulates the
adrenal response. The adrenals put us into the fight and flight. Those are the ones we
know about but actually there s four Fs, not two. So it s fight, flight, freeze or flop.
So basically you re either getting ready to run away, fly away or you re standing and
fighting or you re freezing like a rabbit in the headlight beams or you re completely
collapsed and you re flopping. Now all of those are responses to stress. Now whether
you outwardly show that or do it inwardly is the problem. Most of us have to appear
to be functioning so on the outside like I was. Laid back, calm, relaxed, confident,
working. In fact, I worked all through my healing journey. I never stopped work. I pulled
back. I worked less but I had to keep working because I had to earn a living. So the outward
display looks fine but inside, the body is holding that stress and the better you re
pushing it down in the body, the more likely you are to manifest some kind of symptoms
and that was what I was very, very good at doing. I ve always been very good at looking
good on the outside and suppressing the stress on the inside. Melanie: So I m curious with
your knowledge and background as a healthcare practitioner suddenly receiving this diagnosis.
OK, it was a shock. But did it in any way cause you to perhaps point a finger at yourself
thinking that as a health practitioner, you should be above this? Arielle: Absolutely,
absolutely. I was humiliated and mortified that it happened to me. Up to that time, I
mean my whole life and still is my whole life was perfect diet, exercise, meditation, spiritual
path. I was doing everything right and because I had always wanted a baby, a healthy baby,
I ve never done any kind of drugs, medical drugs or recreational drugs. So I was like
I was so clean living. It was sort of ironic that I was the one who gets diagnosed with
a brain tumor than a lot of people who live much more fun lives. Melanie: But you re putting
your finger on an important thing here. You went through the motions of living a clean
life but it doesn t sound like you re having that much fun, the mindset side of things,
and clearly the implication here is that fun trumps a lot of the other stuff. Arielle:
Well, I have my own ways of having fun. I mean I love sports and dancing and swimming
with dolphins and things like that which for me that is really good fun. For me, doing
drugs probably wouldn t be fun. It s fun for other people. Melanie: So tell us a little
bit about the journey then you had to go through to resolve the stress and consequently the
tumor. Arielle: Well, because I wasn t very stressed on the outside, I realized that the
stress that must have caused this tumor had to be deeply buried and I started first of
all looking at my symptoms. I had crunching [0:10:10] [Phonetic] headaches and the side
effect of my tumor was ironically making me infertile. So here was a woman who had spent
her whole life wanting a baby and couldn t have one because I had grown this brain tumor.
I thought that irony, that is just I can t overlook that. There s no such thing as a
coincidence. So obviously there s something about the issue of being a mother, of having
children that I need to look at, and because I knew that my major source of stress was
relationships, I thought that s the area to delve in. Of course it s a big area. So as
well as doing a lot of neurolinguistic programming to search and look deeper into what were my
beliefs, what were the hidden values, what were the old past experiences. I did many,
many journeys back into my childhood and looking at every decision I had made and gradually
I started clearing out some of the old stuck thinking and this is the process. Because
I didn t have any particular guide, you could tell me exactly what to do. It was kind of
trial and horror. I had to just keep trying different things until something seemed to
work. Melanie: So you didn t have an Arielle by your side. Arielle: Not always. I have
many Arielles around the world that I worked with whenever I could and I spent most of
my money going on trainings, mainly to get my knowledge up and to heal myself as well.
Ironically in the process of going on all these trainings, I accumulated a wall full
of certificates and what else happened was my whole work-life changed. I moved from being
an osteopath and a naturopath into looking more at the mind-body side of healing and
then became more interested in neurolinguistic programming and then psychology and then coaching
and gradually my whole career changed very gradually because I started using what I knew
with my clients. I started to notice that as I help them do the explorations, they got
better quicker. Now they didn t usually come in with brain tumors. They came in with simpler
problems. It was very gratifying to see how well it worked and I was getting better results
working on the mind-body side than I was working merely on the physical side. So gradually
I became more and more convinced I was on the right path and intuitively I could feel
when I did a good piece of change work. I could feel when something had really shifted.
So even though I didn t get an immediate overnight spontaneous remission, I knew when I had done
an important piece of work. So there are key stepping stones along the way in my journey
and I think looking back, when I tell people, Yeah, I healed my brain tumor without surgery
or medication, they go, Wow, that s really impressive. Then they hear that it took me
10 years. Hmm, not so impressive. Beryl: So here s a question. Why do you think it had
to take you 10 years and it wasn t an overnight healing? Arielle: I ask myself that question
everyday particularly because I was reading all kinds of amazing stories about people
having spontaneous remissions in six weeks or a few months or a few days. What s wrong
with me? How come I haven t healed? And I gradually realized it was one of the most
important points in my journey. It was just before I healed my tumor. I realized I was
attached to the whole idea of getting better quickly. I wanted that immediate result. I
wanted to get rid of this but I wasn t conscious of it. It was early one morning I woke up
and usually what would happen is I would feel perfectly OK because most of the time, I was
fine; and then I would remember and this black cloud would descend on my head and oh, I ve
got this brain tumor to deal with. I heard this little voice silently saying in my head,
Oh, I m so sick of this. I just want to get rid of this tumor. I don t want to deal with
this anymore. It had been nine years at this point and I was fed up with it. It was no
question but I was smart enough by that point in my journey to hear that voice. I went,
Oh, that s a very angry voice in my own head. If the voice had a gun, it would shoot the
tumor dead. It would get rid of it as fast as possible. That s not a very loving idea
and that s like there s a part of me trying to cut off another part of me because I knew
that this tumor was a part of me. I had put it. It was in my head. Nobody else would put
it there and I also had a belief that whatever the body could create, it could un-create.
It would [0:15:17] [Indiscernible]. So I thought to myself, This angry voice, that s the problem.
So I started to think about, Well, it s true. I do want to get rid of the tumor and I haven
t faced that. I felt well the opposite of course would be to accept the tumor and I
don t want to accept the tumor. That was the last thing I wanted to do. I was really honest
and I thought, Well, you can t lie to yourself. You can t pretend you accept something you
don t. That s going to have no effect, whatsoever. Your body will know you re lying. So I got
very clever and using my NLP skills, I did have a whole review of my life and I looked
at the journey I ve been on for the last nine years and I realized then how much I had changed,
how much I had grown. I thought about all the people I had met, the wonderful, supportive,
wise, amazing people all around the world who had taught me so many things. I thought,
If I hadn t had this tumor, I wouldn t have gone on all those trainings. I wouldn t have
traveled the world. I wouldn t have met these people. I wouldn t have received the love
from people all around the world. I was very touched. One of my friends in the States invited
her whole prayer group to pray for me, complete strangers. So every week a whole prayer group
was including me in the prayers. How cool is that? s just amazing. It touched my heart
so much and it was as I gradually began to appreciate how much this tumor had been my
guide and how it had been my friend, and how it had been leading me step by step on my
journey and then I started thinking, Oh, I m very different now than I was 10 years ago.
Ten years ago when I was 39, I just wanted a baby. I thought I would get married, have
a baby, 2.5 children. I will be happy, blah, blah, blah. I had a very limited view of what
was going to be happiness. What I got instead was this very incredible learning journey
which was richer and deeper and my whole spirit and soul had evolved. Then I realized, Oh
my god, I actually like myself better now than I ever liked myself before. That s a
big thing. It s a really big thing. I thought, If the tumor is still here, and it s my guide,
then the reason it s still here must be because there s something more it wants to teach me.
Maybe I get to go to Hawaii and swim with the dolphins again. Hey, that s not a bad
idea. It was better and bigger adventures that it wants to show me. So maybe I should
trust it and it was with that idea in mind that I finally could say, OK. I accept you
being in my head. I give you permission to stay. In fact, I give you permission to stay
until the end of my days because you obviously have a better plan for my life than I ever
had. And I let go. I sincerely let go of the idea that I needed to get rid of it there
and then. You know what happened? Really funny thing happened then. I forgot I had it. Melanie:
You stopped focusing on it. Arielle: Didn t wake up in the morning thinking, Oh, I ve
got a brain tumor. I got on with my life and luckily by that stage, I had learned how to
handle my symptoms better. I had dealt with so much of my stuff that I was in a much cleaner,
better state inside. So I was just getting back into my life and living my life normally
and it was six months later I had my normal meeting with my specialist. My blood test
and everything and the results came through and I looked at them. I thought, Oh, must
be a mistake. Looks normal. So I go into his office and handed him the blood test results
and he was just astonished, absolutely astonished. He says, This is amazing! This is incredible.
How have you done this? He said, You know what s interesting? I ve been your doctor
for 10 years. You have really changed. You re not the same person you were 10 years ago.
Whatever you ve done, however you ve done that, it s a real credit to you. I was so
thrilled and I said, Well, is it a mistake? Because maybe it s just that I m 10 years
older and the hormones. [0:19:39] [Indiscernible] this can only mean one thing, that the prolactin
has gone down. That means the tumor has gone down. It s the only way it could happen. So
I realized that was really good news and I was so, so pleased but at first I was cautious
and I didn t want to sort of rock the boat too much because I thought it could be that
my tumor didn t want me to jump on a soapbox and [Inaudible] and I m still cautious on
that. I very cautiously advice people who are on a similar journey to welcome the exploration
that they ve been invited to do and to welcome whatever they ve got as a guide. Melanie:
So what kind of response do you get when you put that to people? Because here s the thing,
people traditionally unfortunately don t seek help for things like tumors or chronic illnesses
until it s well advanced. They tend to ignore symptoms and then only when they can t ignore
it anymore, they ask for help; and then I m wondering what kind of responses when you
begin to communicate to them, Look, you have a mentor or coach here in the condition. Let
s in a sense get with the program and see what we can learn from it. What kind of responses
do you get? Arielle: Well Mel, you re absolutely right. Most people don t think to hire a coach
like me until they ve got a full blown diagnosis and often they re in a flap trying to decide
what kind of treatments to have and sometimes they re undergoing treatments and not feeling
too good because they re suffering the side effects as well as whatever illness they re
going through. There is a lot I can do to help a person in that state. Obviously it
takes a while to get to the point of the stress but whatever I can do with a person at that
stage will greatly accelerate the effectiveness of whatever healing path they ve chosen. So
that s the ideal place to catch something. If you could catch it a little bit earlier,
if people were just a little bit more aware of their symptoms and took them seriously,
then you could actually nip things in the bud. That s one of the reasons I wrote my
new book because I m hoping to make that connection so that the message gets out there and people
start to pay more attention to their bodies. They read their symptoms better and they re
more mindful of their internal state because it is that quality of mindfulness, of noticing
what s going on inside and not just stuffing it away and thinking, Oh, tomorrow will be
better. Often people come to me after they ve had treatment and they ve been given the
all clear but they re really nervous because they re afraid that it s going to come back.
The smarter ones will say to me, Well, I ve had the physical treatment but I know I haven
t eradicated the cause. So I want to know where this came from in the first place. Now
that s beautiful because then we can do the work [0:23:00] [Indiscernible] and we can
clear out the whole cause so that it never comes back and the person can really move
on and benefit from the whole experience. So that s good and sometimes people only learn
because one of their loved ones is going through a healing crisis and by helping them, they
suddenly wake up to, Maybe I better look at this too. That s another group of people who
probably would benefit greatly from this idea. But I think people are getting smarter. I
think people are much smarter and now that some of the true statistics are coming out
about the ineffectiveness of our physical medicine and I m not trying to knock it but
we need to make it more effective. We need to look at the whole body. We need to look
at the energetic side of the person as well as the physical side of the person. Our medical
model is rooted in Newtonian physics from the past. It s outdated and it s still treating
the body as if the body is a car that carries us from place to place and when something
is broken, it replaces parts of it, sticks new bits in and it s not as simple as that.
We are holistic, energetic beings and it s [0:24:19] [Indiscernible] that we could heal
a lot, lot better if we looked more holistically at the big picture. Beryl: It s not such a
hard thing to get my head around or for other people to get their head around. I ve been
in this world for a while of complementary healing and working with energy. But what
you re really saying is there s something out of balance. Energetically there s something
out of balance and we know that everything in the universe is made up of frequencies,
of vibrations. And if we can just see in that quite simple way that this is the way it is
isn t it? There s something that s out of balance because there s no separation between
mind and body. Why not look into the mind for where the answers are? Arielle: Absolutely.
Beryl: Here s a question that was just going through my mind here and I know some people
will find it difficult perhaps when they first come to you, to actually acknowledge that
they have played a part in this because many in society play victim and we ve all done
it at some point. It s an easy option to blame something outside of you or to just not have
to look at yourself because it s not always easy to look at yourself and say, I did this.
How do you help people move into that space where actually they can feel empowered by
this? Arielle: Well I have to confess that I was one of those people myself and that
s kind of ironic considering that I was totally immersed in being an osteopath and a naturopath
and mind-body medicine and all that stuff. I heard a voice in my own head saying, I did
not create this. I had nothing to do with this and I didn t want this. This has been
the biggest intrusion of my life. It has been my biggest saboteur. It stopped me from being
who I wanted to be and doing what I wanted to do. That was the inner anger and rage inside
my own head talking. So I can really relate to people who have resistance to the whole
concept of mind-body medicine and if there was one thing I wanted to get across, it s
the idea that it s not a conscious choice. Nobody gets up in the morning and [0:26:34]
[Inaudible] an illness. I think I will have cancer or how about a bad cold or a flu or
something. Nobody does that. What happens is it s like we have a pattern of thoughts
that goes through our mind on a continual basis. Everyday, we think about 60,000 thoughts
but the problem is, they re the same 60,000 thoughts we thought yesterday and the day
before that and the day before that. We are very habitual creatures and we think in habitual
ways and these habits, these thought habits go down and create grooves in our minds so
we re more likely to think in those ways. This is all unconscious. We re not aware of
60,000 thoughts or aware of a very small percentage of those thoughts. The river of thoughts that
s going around our mind and body is what creates the problem. That s the unconscious level
of thinking and lots of times, there are more than one aspect of our habitual thinking that
creates an illness and this is where I created this metaphor of a thought cloud and a thought
cloud can be a whole group of related and unrelated thoughts sometimes that trigger
each other. So it s kind of like if you can imagine a wiring system, a whole branch of
Christmas tree lights all lighting up and some event triggers you in one aspect and
it switches on the Melanie: A whole lot. Arielle: And the whole lot starts lighting up and then
you have a full blown response. We know that his happens in rage and think of somebody
having road rage. They were fine a minute ago and then somebody cuts them up in traffic
and then whamo, they have an overblown reaction. It s like their thought cloud has just been
lit up and it s obviously over the top. It s inappropriate. It s an overreaction to events
and that s what we do in a quiet, physical way too. Our body is overreacting to the things
that we are not addressing. So my process with people is about literally pulling some
of those lights out and looking at them [0:28:44] [Inaudible] and some are more important than
others. There are like major circuits in the brain. If you capture that event or that old
memory or that decision or that big, fat, negative emotion that s floating in the brain
and you can resolve where that came from, it literally evaporates because it s not made
of anything. It s just a thought habit that has created a pathway in the brain. What s
fascinating is all the research into how the brain works and even how we see. The more
I read, the more amazing and the more [Indiscernible]. We don t automatically see what we see. When
a baby first looks out at the world, they don t see anything at all and if they re not
presented with the same familiar kind of shapes and stimulus, their eyes do not learn how
to focus and after a certain point in time, if they haven t received that input, they
will never learn to see. What you do see is very much affected by what you have already
decided to see. So we don t really see the full picture at all and an example of that
is we have a blind spot in each eye and everybody knows we have a blind spot. But if you look
around the room, you don t notice bits of the room missing, do you? That s because the
brain fills it in. It just sort of imagines what s there. Now what s disturbing is that
the brain is doing that for 90 percent of your picture. You re not really seeing what
you think you re seeing. Ninety percent of what you look out and see, you re making it
up. Your brain is imagining it s seeing things and we can t really trust the perceptions
that we ve put into our memory banks. Beryl: And they re different for everybody aren t
they? Those filters are different for everybody depending on your experiences of life. Arielle:
That s why if you re a witness on the accident scene for instance and there are three or
four other witnesses, they re all going to say they saw something completely different.
Melanie: Yeah. Beryl: Which is why one size doesn t fit all in terms of healing, isn t
it? Arielle: Exactly. There s no one quick path thing that s going to work on everybody
and this is where having a coach who understands. It s about finding out what s happening in
this person here, not trying to take this and put it on this person, if you know what
I mean. Finding that individual way because we all think differently. We all make different
associations. This is what makes us unique. There are patterns. There are definitely patterns
to human behavior that are worldwide. We all feel feelings in similar ways. We all have
similar facial expressions to go with those feelings and we stuff things down into our
body in similar ways. This can begin to get clues about what s going on by reading what
a person s body is demonstrating. Beryl: So you go on, Melanie. Melanie: Go on Beryl,
because I was going to go off on a slightly different track. I was going to talk about
her practical magic courses but you finish. Beryl: Well, in a previous conversation you
mentioned to us a study. I think it was the 1500 cancer patients that had some spontaneous
remissions. That was fascinating. Would you just share that with the audience please?
Arielle: Sure, sure. This was a study done by IONS, the Institute of Noetic Science out
in California and they looked at the records of 1574 people who had medically supervised
spontaneous remissions from cancer. That means they were medically diagnosed to have cancer
with the scans and tests and everything else. They were seen by doctors. The doctors verified
they had cancer. They didn t have treatment and then it was verified by the doctors on
the hospitals and the tests that the cancer was gone. So that s a large number of spontaneous
remissions and my heart leapt with joy at reading this study because I thought, At last,
we re looking at how do people heal rather than just what makes people sick. Now what
was interesting about the study is they looked at everything that people did, physically,
nutritionally, biologically, chemistry; but more importantly for me, there have been mental
and emotional changes that these people made. They all made the same eight changes which
was extraordinary so they were able to see that they all had the same eight things in
common. Number one on the list was they faced their crisis. They didn t go into denial.
They didn t just try to get rid of it. They faced it. They owned it. They took responsibility
for it and they sort of said, Right. I m going to deal with this. This is my responsibility.
So the eight changes that they made where when I looked at the list, I was able to go
tick, tick, tick. Oh, I had done all those and then I realized, my goodness, this is
a great checklist for people. When they ve got an illness, if they could look at this
list and say, Where am I doing well? Where am I doing less well and how could I do better
at the things that I m not doing well at? s a great, useful checklist if nothing else.
Melanie: So do you think that the speed with which people worked their way through this
checklist probably is the extent to which they accelerate their recovery? Arielle: Yes,
and I think certain factors are more important than others. The most important factor seems
to be reducing stress and that s a big subject because what stresses one person may not be
as stressful to another. The quicker that somebody can get back to that place of truly
knowing and loving themselves, that is what shifts faster than anything else. Now what
assists that is having the loving support of somebody else, having at least one loving
relationship if not a whole group of people; having good relationships with your doctors
so you feel supported; practicing good things so that you are taking care of your body.
You re taking good kinds of treatments. You re feeding yourself well. You re getting rest.
You re doing what s necessary instead of accelerating it. One of the major things that really is
important is to manage your emotions and that means to be able to manage your own state
and to be able to say yes when it s right to say yes and no when it s right to say no.
Now that demands a lot of maturity. Now automatically when you look at this list, you say, Yes,
logical. These are all good ideas and in order to fulfill them, you will have to evolve as
a human being. You will have to become more mature. You will have to manage your own state.
You will have to take responsibility. These are no small issues. So that s where I ve
come to see a healing journey as an evolutionary journey [0:35:54] [Indiscernible] for a person
to become more of who they came to be. It s as if your body is saying somewhere you
just stepped off your path a bit and we re inviting you to focus on the things. We re
motivating you to focus on the things with a little bit of pain and discomfort until
you get back on track again and when you do get back on track, your body knows exactly
what to do to heal itself. One of my most favorite stories at the moment is a book that
just came out, the story of Anita Moorjani. I don t know if you heard about her story.
She has written a book called Dying to Be Me and she had a very severe terminal lymphoma
and lymphoma is usually exceedingly serious and people usually die within two to five
months. So she got lymphoma at a time in her life. Similar to me, she had just married.
She was ecstatically happy, looking forward to having a family. She had finally developed
the career of her dreams. Everything was going well in her life and she suddenly gets lymphoma
and she got very, very ill and lost massive amounts of weight. She shrank to a skeleton.
She had lumps of lymphoma all over her body. She was being fed intravenously and they had
such huge holes in her neck to put the tubes in. They thought they would have to do plastic
surgery to heal those tube holes and she was getting weaker and weaker and weaker. Her
family was devastated and she died. She had a near death experience and she was in so
much pain that when she left her body, she had instant euphoria. So she had a total memory
of the whole experience of dying. She said she was looking down at her body with all
the doctors and nurses rushing around trying to revive her, her family in a flap. She could
see her brother flying in on an airplane from another city to visit her and she was aware
of all this and she said, Oh, you shouldn t worry. I feel wonderful. I ve never been
so full of joy. I m fine. Please don t cry. I m fine. Then she sort of floated up even
higher and she reconnected with her father who had passed on years before. She adored
her father. So it was like a reunion with a few other friends and she was having a wonderful
time. Never felt better. Gradually she came to the realization that she had a choice.
She could come back if she wanted to and if she did choose to come back and live her life,
she would heal. Curiously, even though she was having such a wonderful time up there,
she decided to come back. So she came to her body and the doctors were astonished that
she revived. They thought she would be dead within hours and she came back into her body
and within four days she completely healed. Four days. Even the holes in her neck completely
healed without a scar. Beryl: Wow. Arielle: That s the sort of story that is just mind-boggling
and what s really amazing is that she came back with the joy. She came back with an expansive
awareness of love and joy and she committed to feeling that and living that everyday of
her life from now on and she changed her work flow somewhat to go out and speak to people
about it as well. So I haven t met her yet but I m sure she s a soul sister and I admire
her greatly for being able to have that opportunity to heal on only four days. But I don t mind
having taken longer. My situation is very small in comparison to hers. My tumor was
not life-threatening and that s what gave me the grace to do the exploration. But I
see that as my university because I m having an opportunity to go very slowly through every
aspect and learn about all the different kinds of thoughts that could lead to the stress.
It has given me so much insight into what holds people back. Beryl: A true gift. Arielle:
It is. Melanie: Amazing. Arielle: A true gift. It s funny I had to test it again. A few years
after I was completely healed, I unfortunately didn t marry that man of my dreams and was
still having relationship difficulties. I had a particular hot relationship difficulty
and suddenly within two days of that sort of explosive experience, I developed breast
lumps; and two in one and one in the other breast. Really big, angry breast lumps and
my *** actually swelled and were hot and red. I thought, my god, I m really expressing
my rage on what has happened in this relationship and applying to self all my own tools. I thought,
No, this is fine. I m going to heal this. I m going to deal with this, and gradually
the redness and the swelling went down but the lumps didn t go. I learned to be patient
and every month I thought, Well, after my next period, they will go. They will go. And
they didn t and of course I confided in a few friends and my friends were horrified
and they immediately said, Go to the doctor. You need treatment. You don t know, blah,
blah, blah, and of course I was worried and I thought, Well, I should be responsible.
I really should go to the doctor. So I went to the specialist and he took one look and
said, Yeah, these are going to have to come out. I want to do a mammogram and a biopsy
and an ultrasound. I said, m not having a mammogram and mammograms cause cancer. I m
not going to have a mammogram. So you can do biopsy and you can do ultrasound. That
s it. So he wasn t too thrilled but he agreed and there was a delay because funny enough
it was Christmas or something. So there was a delay before I could have the biopsy. So
I decided I would really intensify my search and I went to one of my favorite therapists
and did a really, really deep piece of change work which got root of why I have been so
upset in this particular relationship flare-up. I also did a fast so I cleansed my body. Then
I went for the biopsy and the biopsy was done and again we had to wait for the results and
the doctor gave me this long lecture. Well there are six different grades. We have cells
and it reads this and that. My biopsy came back. I loved it. I was sitting in his office.
He looked at the biopsy results and totally benign. So no aberrant cells. The lumps were
still there. They could see them on the other cell. I could feel them and he said, Yeah,
but I think even though they are benign, we should still take them out. But by this time,
I had read up in the medical libraries and I had heard that if you have fibrotic lumps
or lumps in the breast like this, it would probably resolve by themselves. If you operated
on them, they would probably grow back and I started giving you a few people who had
the operation and they all had them grow back. So I thought, Why should I put my body through
an operation and potential scarring and stuff like that? I will just trust my body can heal
it. So I just continued sort of dealing with stuff in my own cloud and kept living my clean
life. Nine months later, the lumps completely vanished and they never came back. So I thought
that was confirmation. I did my own process and it worked. So I was very thrilled. Beryl:
Arielle you are a total inspiration. You really are. It has been just wonderful listening
to this story. If somebody is watching right now and is a bit concerned about their health
issues and would like to get in touch with you, maybe work with you, how can they find
you Arielle? Arielle: Well, I have a website. My website is HYPERLINK "http://www.PracticalMiracles.com"
www.PracticalMiracles.com and Practical Miracles happens to be the name of my new book coming
out in February 2013, Practical Miracles: Choices That Heal and Build Resilience, because
I don t want to just have a quick healing technique. I want something that builds that
internal force field of strength that s bounced off if I want real resilience and real healing.
I teach these workshops. I m teaching a three-day workshop called Practical Miracles which help
people at any stage of their healing journey to find insights, to apply these tools, to
learn what it is that I did that really helped and people who want to learn these to teach
them to others are welcome to come along as well. Beryl: That s wonderful. Thank you so
much. And you have a Facebook page, do you? Are you active on social media? People might
come find you. Arielle: It s Arielle Essex, funny enough. Arielle Essex and yes, I m also
on Twitter and LinkedIn so you can find me there. Beryl: And I m sure people have comments
on our blog where this episode goes up. So I m hoping that you will come and answer some
of those questions. Arielle: I would be delighted. Absolutely delighted. Beryl: Well, it has
been a delight for us, Arielle, and thank you for sharing so openly your experiences.
It has just been a total privilege for us. Arielle: My pleasure. Beryl: So to our audience,
I m glad you ve enjoyed it. To our Wired for Success audience, thank you for listening.
Please come and subscribe if you haven t already at our blog. Come and subscribe at YouTube.
There s a podcast of this if you haven t already listened, that you can have another listen
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We re everywhere. So please come and join us and we look forward to bringing you another
episode of Wired for Success. So thank you Arielle and good-bye. Melanie: Bye everyone.
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