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My name is Huang Shiyi.
I am 34 in Chinese years, and 33 in Western years
so I guess you could say I am the right age for getting married.
I am a Masters student at a public university,
and my subject is religion, I am doing my research in a field close to psychology.
Other than studying, I have a few jobs,
such as administrative assistant, and in addition I also do some tarot reading.
When it comes to marriage, in the short-term, I think that there is not much chance of me getting married in the next three to five years.
The reason is that I believe marriage actually needs...
Because sometimes when it comes to men, I think we need to have a stable economic situation,
in order to be able to pursue a girl or be able to get married and then have a home to return to.
Men often have a feeling of stoic heroism.
Men think if they make less money that the girl,
or if there is a big difference, then being able to get married is very difficult indeed.
My family is not a particularly united one.
When I was in junior or senior high school, my parents got divorced, my father was cheating.
In my opinion, unity is very important.
Men and women both need to have a very strong sense of responsibility in this aspect
because after you get married it is not about feelings,
you need to face the struggles and tests of life together.
Actually, I think people nowadays, people are very tired because they work many hours.
I myself think I will not have children.
The economic cost creates a lot of pressure.
This economic aspect exerts a fair amount of influence, for example it discourages young people from marrying.
Also, because of the decreasing number of children the parents use all their energy on that one child,
and they give those children everything they want and spoil them instead of educating them.
So actually I think in the future what will happen is that
these young people will develop strong personalities to the point of becoming egotistic.
It will also influence the situation after marriage, since two people from different families who have always
had their way will have to form a family, will they be able to learn to deal with their issues?
In my opinion home is a place where I feel I can rest, where I have a strong sense of security.
For example, when I go outside it can feel like I need to wear a mask
in order to be able to interact with people at work. I need to hide my real self.
Because people, cannot pretend like this for twenty hours a day, they hope
that when they get home they can stop pretending and return to a more laid-back and relaxed life.
For example me, when I am at work, I have to guess what peopleare thinking, and I think this is very annoying.
I think one of the hardest commitments you can make is marriage, because it means a man and a woman making a promise to unite their lives.
Actually, when it comes to liking someone, I will not usually consider moving in together with them.
Just, I think you need another reason to be with your husband, not just base it all on feelings,
because people are naturally attracted to novelty.
When they got married there were not any parties or celebrations.
They did not buy anything, nothing at all, they just went to register their marriage and that was it.
She said she married him because she liked her life with him.
Filming and Editing by Pinti Zheng Subtitles by Daniel Pagan Murphy
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